"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Appreciate Life

84karat

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Shortly after class, as I was walking to go eat, I saw a fire truck and a police car and a bunch of paramedics gathered on the walkway. I walked slower and noticed there was a girl, eyes closed and face cut up and bloody, lying on a stretcher! I have no idea what happened...I asked the people around but no one knew...they were stapling the girl's neck and head!! It's really odd because there is no obvious hazard in sight.

Anyway, point being, it really strikes you when you see something like that. Yeah, you can see videos of someone being hit by a car, and saying that it could happen to you. But, wow, life really can take turns for the worst when you just don't expect it. That girl was probably just walking to class and who knows what put her in that stretcher, and who knows if she's even alright?! It's very different when you see something like that, it really makes you feel so thankful and you forget about your worries and little details that shouldn't matter.

Life really is waaay short, don't take it for granted. Take every opportunity and just let go, be free, feel good, light up someone's day...be happy, whatever, just slow down and actually live. Everyone is too caught up in their stressful lives that they don't take a second to appreciate the true beauty of life. You can't bring back the past or control the future...the time is now...live it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Amen to your post. I see it everyday with my job and i have come to realize life is very fragile. If you go to sleep one night with regret that is one night to many! When i was younger i planned way to far ahead. Now i live everyday with as much energy as possible. Because one day you may be struck down or you may be 80 years old looking back at what you did, the last thing i want is to be a miserable bitter 80 year old guy
 

johnmich

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Yes i am thinking the same thing. I wasnt gonna go to university b'cos i would leave all ma mates.

But i wanna go for the experience and also because where i live, the town, is a crap hole.

I also talk about this when im drunk. Last time i got pissed i kept making a vow with my mates that i would go sky diving. lol what a **** i am.

You know what i mean tho.
 

Egoist

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we need to remember this more often.

life is short. live it to the fullest. you never know what's going to happen the next second, so never forget that.

so go out there and follow your dreams, ambitions, pursue the girl of your dreams, take a chance, etc, etc, etc.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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FitmanFromCgy

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Originally posted by 84karat
Shortly after class, as I was walking to go eat, I saw a fire truck and a police car and a bunch of paramedics gathered on the walkway. I walked slower and noticed there was a girl, eyes closed and face cut up and bloody, lying on a stretcher! I have no idea what happened...I asked the people around but no one knew...they were stapling the girl's neck and head!! It's really odd because there is no obvious hazard in sight.

Anyway, point being, it really strikes you when you see something like that. Yeah, you can see videos of someone being hit by a car, and saying that it could happen to you. But, wow, life really can take turns for the worst when you just don't expect it. That girl was probably just walking to class and who knows what put her in that stretcher, and who knows if she's even alright?! It's very different when you see something like that, it really makes you feel so thankful and you forget about your worries and little details that shouldn't matter.

Life really is waaay short, don't take it for granted. Take every opportunity and just let go, be free, feel good, light up someone's day...be happy, whatever, just slow down and actually live. Everyone is too caught up in their stressful lives that they don't take a second to appreciate the true beauty of life. You can't bring back the past or control the future...the time is now...live it.
great post, this is something i have to keep reminding myself every day.... its easy to forget things that your trying not to forget.
 

LowPlainsDrifter

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I had strange symptoms about 2.5 yrs ago. Neither my doctors nor myself knew what it was, until I had them check my blood again and it turned out to be mononucleosis.

Some of the stuff I felt really worried me, but finding out that I wasn't fatally ill was like a beam of bright holy light into my heart.

I felt so grateful, full of life... but I went back to taking things for granted.

It's a tough habit to get out of (taking things for granted) but I try...
 

Paintballguy

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Originally posted by Egoist
its not THAT big of a deal unless you actually get shot.
If you have a gun pointed at your head, it IS a big deal. Your only a click away from not living.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Luscious

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Originally posted by 84karat


Life really is waaay short, don't take it for granted. Take every opportunity and just let go, be free, feel good, light up someone's day...be happy, whatever, just slow down and actually live. Everyone is too caught up in their stressful lives that they don't take a second to appreciate the true beauty of life. You can't bring back the past or control the future...the time is now...live it.
Bump.
 

Don Juanabbe

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This was a good post for me to read. Having a very down week.

I had 3 ladies lined up. Got blown out by all 3. Ego has taken a beating bigtime. :mad:
 

ethnomethodologist

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Originally posted by fuzzx
wait till you have a gun pointed at you, that really changes your perspective.
I've been to court to defend myself against being a hostage taker:p last summer I slept through a hostage situation, I was too drunk. Imagine if I died in my sleep:)

I go to poker nights, and I see guns hanging on the walls, so I asked about them once. The guy is now in jail because of how excited he got that night.

I've seen people reach for their guns, to actually shoot me, or just try to scare the **** out of me.

I've been faced with the chance to play roulette with one of six, for the entire table. My life is not worth a table full of money.

Thanks for trying though fuzz, try being a cop, just imagine how that is. I'm sure ytou've got a few words to say about how disrespectful they are to you...
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Thanks for this thread karat, it's been a while since I thought of this...

Actually no, that's a lie. I shrugged off the thought last night. Some guy owes me money, and he was begging for change, while telling me about how he is quitting smoking. His mother, his father, an uncle, and two aunts, have died in the last 4 years to lung cancer... It was only in the last year that he started to cut down from 3 packs a day. The only thing that ticked me was he nearly broke his back, to the week that my friend had his skull crushed from a fourwheeler accident, the only difference was, he was drunk...
 
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