"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Appreciate Life

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Shortly after class, as I was walking to go eat, I saw a fire truck and a police car and a bunch of paramedics gathered on the walkway. I walked slower and noticed there was a girl, eyes closed and face cut up and bloody, lying on a stretcher! I have no idea what happened...I asked the people around but no one knew...they were stapling the girl's neck and head!! It's really odd because there is no obvious hazard in sight.

Anyway, point being, it really strikes you when you see something like that. Yeah, you can see videos of someone being hit by a car, and saying that it could happen to you. But, wow, life really can take turns for the worst when you just don't expect it. That girl was probably just walking to class and who knows what put her in that stretcher, and who knows if she's even alright?! It's very different when you see something like that, it really makes you feel so thankful and you forget about your worries and little details that shouldn't matter.

Life really is waaay short, don't take it for granted. Take every opportunity and just let go, be free, feel good, light up someone's day...be happy, whatever, just slow down and actually live. Everyone is too caught up in their stressful lives that they don't take a second to appreciate the true beauty of life. You can't bring back the past or control the future...the time is now...live it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Amen to your post. I see it everyday with my job and i have come to realize life is very fragile. If you go to sleep one night with regret that is one night to many! When i was younger i planned way to far ahead. Now i live everyday with as much energy as possible. Because one day you may be struck down or you may be 80 years old looking back at what you did, the last thing i want is to be a miserable bitter 80 year old guy
 

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Yes i am thinking the same thing. I wasnt gonna go to university b'cos i would leave all ma mates.

But i wanna go for the experience and also because where i live, the town, is a crap hole.

I also talk about this when im drunk. Last time i got pissed i kept making a vow with my mates that i would go sky diving. lol what a **** i am.

You know what i mean tho.
 

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we need to remember this more often.

life is short. live it to the fullest. you never know what's going to happen the next second, so never forget that.

so go out there and follow your dreams, ambitions, pursue the girl of your dreams, take a chance, etc, etc, etc.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by 84karat
Shortly after class, as I was walking to go eat, I saw a fire truck and a police car and a bunch of paramedics gathered on the walkway. I walked slower and noticed there was a girl, eyes closed and face cut up and bloody, lying on a stretcher! I have no idea what happened...I asked the people around but no one knew...they were stapling the girl's neck and head!! It's really odd because there is no obvious hazard in sight.

Anyway, point being, it really strikes you when you see something like that. Yeah, you can see videos of someone being hit by a car, and saying that it could happen to you. But, wow, life really can take turns for the worst when you just don't expect it. That girl was probably just walking to class and who knows what put her in that stretcher, and who knows if she's even alright?! It's very different when you see something like that, it really makes you feel so thankful and you forget about your worries and little details that shouldn't matter.

Life really is waaay short, don't take it for granted. Take every opportunity and just let go, be free, feel good, light up someone's day...be happy, whatever, just slow down and actually live. Everyone is too caught up in their stressful lives that they don't take a second to appreciate the true beauty of life. You can't bring back the past or control the future...the time is now...live it.
great post, this is something i have to keep reminding myself every day.... its easy to forget things that your trying not to forget.
 

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I had strange symptoms about 2.5 yrs ago. Neither my doctors nor myself knew what it was, until I had them check my blood again and it turned out to be mononucleosis.

Some of the stuff I felt really worried me, but finding out that I wasn't fatally ill was like a beam of bright holy light into my heart.

I felt so grateful, full of life... but I went back to taking things for granted.

It's a tough habit to get out of (taking things for granted) but I try...
 

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Originally posted by Egoist
its not THAT big of a deal unless you actually get shot.
If you have a gun pointed at your head, it IS a big deal. Your only a click away from not living.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by 84karat


Life really is waaay short, don't take it for granted. Take every opportunity and just let go, be free, feel good, light up someone's day...be happy, whatever, just slow down and actually live. Everyone is too caught up in their stressful lives that they don't take a second to appreciate the true beauty of life. You can't bring back the past or control the future...the time is now...live it.
Bump.
 

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This was a good post for me to read. Having a very down week.

I had 3 ladies lined up. Got blown out by all 3. Ego has taken a beating bigtime. :mad:
 

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Originally posted by fuzzx
wait till you have a gun pointed at you, that really changes your perspective.
I've been to court to defend myself against being a hostage taker:p last summer I slept through a hostage situation, I was too drunk. Imagine if I died in my sleep:)

I go to poker nights, and I see guns hanging on the walls, so I asked about them once. The guy is now in jail because of how excited he got that night.

I've seen people reach for their guns, to actually shoot me, or just try to scare the **** out of me.

I've been faced with the chance to play roulette with one of six, for the entire table. My life is not worth a table full of money.

Thanks for trying though fuzz, try being a cop, just imagine how that is. I'm sure ytou've got a few words to say about how disrespectful they are to you...
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Thanks for this thread karat, it's been a while since I thought of this...

Actually no, that's a lie. I shrugged off the thought last night. Some guy owes me money, and he was begging for change, while telling me about how he is quitting smoking. His mother, his father, an uncle, and two aunts, have died in the last 4 years to lung cancer... It was only in the last year that he started to cut down from 3 packs a day. The only thing that ticked me was he nearly broke his back, to the week that my friend had his skull crushed from a fourwheeler accident, the only difference was, he was drunk...
 
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