Apparently I'm too nice?

[Robert28]

wanna be rid of your "nice guy" perception? next time you see her cuss her out, for no reason at all, call her every 4 letter word you can think of. that'll change her mind about you for awhile.lol

 

[Falcon25]

One girl calls me boring, who cares?

She's fat, she's ugly and I don't know why I took what she said literally, I was just interested in knowing why there are women who like ars*holes? You can a be strong, confident, great catch without being a jerk.

As for me being boring? Apart from her, no one has ever said I am boring and if me not treating a woman like total sh*t makes me boring, then I can live with that.

Frankly, I'm 22 years old, I've had my fun, I've slept with a few women, I've learnt many lessons, now I am looking for a quality woman! If that makes me boring to a majority of women, so be it! I'm after quality, not quantity.

With this attitude, you will have problems with women for the rest of your twenties. She just did you a favor, but like most men, you ignore it. It's okay to be nice and confident. But it is never okay to be BORING. You have a choice now, you can continue being boring, and other women will tell you the same soon, cause if this bitcvh can see it, they all can. Or, you can change it up and be unpredictable and more succesful with women. Either way, God's speed

 

[perseverance]

With this attitude, you will have problems with women for the rest of your twenties. She just did you a favor, but like most men, you ignore it. It's okay to be nice and confident. But it is never okay to be BORING. You have a choice now, you can continue being boring, and other women will tell you the same soon, cause if this bitcvh can see it, they all can. Or, you can change it up and be unpredictable and more succesful with women. Either way, God's speed

I'm not nice though, I don't pander to anyone, I just afford people with a basic level of respect, courtesy and politeness that I would expect from someone. I afford these basics things to everyone I meet.

I do not pander to anyone and I am able to stand my ground around both men and women. You have made a hell of a lot of assumptions about me and you do not know me personally and that the fact you equate scoring women as being a mark of success is highly tragic.

I suggest you go and get some more ambition before you bombard my green house with stones.

 

[john_trenor]

Most women need a guy that knows how to carry him self by keeping a balance between a nice guy and a dominant alpha mail. Most men confuse this and automatically put them selves into categories, or even worse get put into a category.

Am I the nice guy or am I the bad boy that women find hard to resist? You have to know when to play the role. It’s not good to be the metro sexual that complements on their girlfriend’s hair or is to quick to give any kind of complements. On the other hand you don’t want to be inconsiderate and distant.

When a man can master being the interesting type he will in fact master being both nice attentive guy and a confident man who makes her feel secure. I have some great articles that you would find interesting. I hope they will answer some of your questions. Stay well.:yes:

 

[perseverance]

I'll have a look through them John.

I'm over her comments anyway, I just found it strange she chose to class me as something I am not. Just because when I'm in a relationship I'm faithful and pick and choose who I will and will not sleep with doesn't mean I am nice or boring.

I think she took a pot shot at me because I treated her more as a friend rather than a f-buddy or something more.

 

[john_trenor]

She is unstable you're a good man mate. don't let women change you that's a part of being a bad boy. Drop this crazy broad she doesn't deserve you. Get your self a real woman that deserves a real man. Good luck

 

[perseverance]

She is unstable you're a good man mate. don't let women change you that's a part of being a bad boy. Drop this crazy broad she doesn't deserve you. Get your self a real woman that deserves a real man. Good luck

I never got with her in the first place. She came on to me one night in a bar when I was introduced to her by a friend and I evaded her lunges and stuck her in the friendzone. I rarely speak to her anyway, unless I see her out and about, then I'll make small talk with her, because that's what type of man I am, I don't believe in giving people the cold shoulder when they haven't done anything wrong to you.


I guess it was just a pot shot, the reason I posted this thread was to find out if these stereotypes have much substance and it appears to me that they do not.

 

[teacha]

I'll have a look through them John.

I'm over her comments anyway, I just found it strange she chose to class me as something I am not. Just because when I'm in a relationship I'm faithful and pick and choose who I will and will not sleep with doesn't mean I am nice or boring.

seems like she really got to you otherwise you wouldn't be here doubting yourself and analysing stupid shit like this. who the fvck cares. stop letting women's words get to you like this.

I think she took a pot shot at me because I treated her more as a friend rather than a f-buddy or something more.

now you're just rationalizing things to your liking. this shouldn't even bother you unless it was true.

 

[perseverance]

seems like she really got to you otherwise you wouldn't be here doubting yourself and analysing stupid shit like this. who the fvck cares. stop letting women's words get to you like this.



now you're just rationalizing things to your liking. this shouldn't even bother you unless it was true.

You're right mate.

I'm going to just forget about it, right now.

 

[Jeffst1980]

She's 20.

I have no intention of hooking up with her.

I made no signal of interest in her.

^^That's why she says you're too "nice." In your case, you didn't show any interest in her because you WEREN'T interested in her--but you were "friendzoned" nonetheless. This isn't a big deal! Plenty of women that I'm not interested in think I'm too "nice" --because I haven't made a move on them! To a women, it doesn't matter if you're genuinely uninterested or just don't have the courage to make a move--the end result is "friendzone." In this case, it shouldn't matter to you.

I doubt you are, in fact, too nice, or that other women think you're too nice. However, if you are ever worried about being too nice, all you really have to do is show some sexual interest in a girl. It has nothing to do with being disrespectful, etc. A lot of guys think that hitting on girls will get them labeled as "creepy." There is nothing creepy if done in a confident manner-- for instance, you can qualify a girl by saying something like, "that was so cool what you just did--I am totally going to hit on you all night now, kino-ing, and then cutting to a new thread. If you do this half-jokingly, this allows you to go direct without seeming desperate, which is the real game-killer.

 

[Darth]

Just to sum this situation up:

This girl is...

1. Fat
2. Ugly
3. Stupid
4. Likes to break up other people's relationships

Why would you take anything this person said to heart?

I would do the exact opposite of what she told me.

 

[perseverance]

Why would you take anything this person said to heart?

Good question, it's definately something I need to man up too. I have never been able to take personal criticisms very well to be honest. I'm getting better though, I'm no longer having b*tch fits about such criticism.

 

[teacha]

^^That's why she says you're too "nice." In your case, you didn't show any interest in her because you WEREN'T interested in her--but you were "friendzoned" nonetheless. This isn't a big deal! Plenty of women that I'm not interested in think I'm too "nice" --because I haven't made a move on them! To a women, it doesn't matter if you're genuinely uninterested or just don't have the courage to make a move--the end result is "friendzone." In this case, it shouldn't matter to you.

has it ever occured to you that you may actually be 'too nice'? i mean most girls who you don't give a fvck about and don't show any interest in end up being overly interested in you while the ones you show sexual interest and want are harder to get. (at least it was for me).