"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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apparently i'm a molester

ohiobohio518

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I go to college.

A few weeks ago I went to a dance party where I met this girl I know. We exchanged like 3 words and started dancing because she just turned around and started to push her ass into my crotch. So I'm like. OK, sweet. And I dance with her for like 3 songs. Then she walks away and I'm just like, ok, whatever, and peace out.

Today, I hear from one of her friends that I molested her that night and that I should apologize to her. My first reaction was, what the ****?! He procedes to tell me that she went to her friends afterwards almost in tears and said that I felt her up and that I touched her boobs. He also told me that there were various witnesses. I was absolutely taken aback by this.

I was drunk, but I wasn't THAT drunk. Apparenlty she was sober (I highly doubt this). Here is my recollection of the events, and I am a very good drunk - I dont' black out and I dont' make bad decisions. I was very aware of myself that night and I know what I am telling you is true.

1. She did initiate the dance - and boy, could she dance! She was going crazy. I got really into it and did what anybody with a girl rubbing her ass on his **** would do, I took my hands and put it on her stomach and rubbed it a little bit. She continued her freakish dancing.
2. I did this for a while, then deicded that I wanted to hook up with her. So I started kissing her neck from behind. She didn't do anything. She kept doing her thang, dancing ilke crazy and holding on to my arms as they were on her stomach.
3. I tried that a few times and gave up. I figured if she wanted to make out with me she would've done so alerady so I just kept doin gwhat I was doign. I was getting bored at that point. My boner was gone and I was just giong through the motions. My hands never left her stomach.
4. After the end of the 3rd or 4th song she stopped dancing, turned around and said "I have to go" and left. So i was like, ok, whatever, and left the party because she was the only person i knew there.

I did not feel her up! I did not touch her boobs. And if I did, they were so small that I didnt' notice that i was touching them (she is ilke 5'1"), but i'm half joking and that's just a ridiculous thing for me to say. i didn't fking molest her. i know whereboobs are. my hands were not there.

what am i supposed to do now? all her friends think i'm like a rapist or something. i dont want people to thikn that. what should i do?!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hors are Trouble with a capital "T"!!!! Say "No" yo hos!!!
 
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Oh hell no!! To apologize is to admit to wrongdoing!!! The hor grinding on you sexually molested you!!!! She should apologize!!!!!
 

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Why would you apologize for something you didn't do? That's rewarding her for lying. Don't apologize, and avoid her like the plague.

It's amazing to me how f*cked up society is, that when an attractive girl screams rape, even when there isn't one, the guy is instantly labeled a perv.

I would just disassociate, and don't go out of your way to explain yourself or draw any attention to it. If people come to you asking about it then I'd tell your side of the story, but you're probably best off just letting it die down.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ChrizZ

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Last Man Standing said:
Oh hell no!! To apologize is to admit to wrongdoing!!! The hor grinding on you sexually molested you!!!! She should apologize!!!!!
exactly.

All she wants is attention anyways.
 

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Technically her touching without your expressed consent is Assault. Remind her of that and that you ahve no problem sending her ass to the pokey for a spin.

Cvnt is only looking for some validation because she is regretting her forwardness and needs to assuage her guilt by blaming it in you. Unfortunately, society would tend to believe her which is why you call her ass out on it. It wouldn't be the first time a man scratched himself and called the cops to say she did it. . .
 
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KarmaSutra said:
Technically her touching without your expressed consent is Assault. Remind her of that and that you ahve no problem sending her ass to the pokey for a spin.

Cvnt is only looking for some validation because she is regretting her forwardness and needs to assuage her guilt by blaming it in you. Unfortunately, society would tend to believe her which is why you call her ass out on it. It wouldn't be the first time a man scratched himself and called the cops to say she did it. . .
Yes!! Are you young bastards understanding this!!! She has become a sexual beast without regard for her femininity and is making war against man!!! You bastards better start waking up!!! Her mind is not the same as a woman!!! Her aggressive sexual artificial self tells us this!!!! A woman's mind, once corrupted, takes on a different form than what her feminine nature dictates - it is a perverted form of her genetic feminine self!!! She is no longer submissive and docile!! She has become a roaring lion ready to devour!!! Understand this!!!
 

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She sounds like a nut case. In my experiance the women who have emotional/mental issues are most likely to say/do crazy things.

My advice to you would be this:
-Do not apologise.
-Do not go on the defensive. It'll make you seem guilty. If she thinks what happened is molesting then ask her why she molested you! ;)
 

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I'm a girl. And I say do NOT apologize. In response to you molesting her, say SHE molested YOU!!! And you liked it. (you did!)

And advise them to tell her not to back her a$$ up into a grown man's crotch anymore, if she is such a "goodie". I'd also feel free to joke about the boob thing. Say what you said here, that you know where boobs are, and unless she is seriously deformed, you weren't in that area.

And also feel free to say you think she is pyscho now.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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don't apologize and u have ****ty friends who take her side over urs.
 

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I wouldn't let it be known that you had been drinking and aren't completely aware of what was going on. There's something about a guy who's loosened up from drinking that makes him unaware of his actions and that could be used against you.
 

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The laws on the dancefloor are so blurred that it is hard to determine what is appropriate and what is not, especially when liquor is involved. I've felt up chicks and fingered them on the dancefloor but at the same time I've gotten into fights and slapped in the face for inappropriate dancefloor etiquette. I disagree with the other posters though. What have you got to lose by apologizing? It's not like you are trying to turn her around and get her to like you. If you say she's a liar and she molested you then she can really get a vendetta against you and push things further with the authorities.

I'd just get some face to face time with her and only her and tell her what ou thought happened and that if you did something that you'd did not remember that it was out of order and you apologize.

Seriously though:
a) You were drinking
b) she was sober
c) there are WITNESSES!?!?!?!

I want to believe you, but the odds are not in your favor, just chalk this one up to experience I say
 

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ALLL you gotta do brother is that IF she decides to take you to court which I highly doubt it go back to the club and ask for the security tape, you say you need it because it's evidence in a court case maybe have your lawyer do it for you so it will be easier. Now you watch it and look for you then it will show that SHE started the whole physical thing and that she is in the wrong and that YOU have a witness that you didnt grope her now if you wanna do a double wammy ask who her so called "Witnesses," are and put them on the stand and when they lie under oath they are in deep sh1t you walk out of there a free man and destroyed her lol.

Good luck brother and society is pathetic....RAPE!!! lol.
 

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I agree with most posters not to apologize. You'd know if you did something wrong. This is girl probably just crazy. If you know you didn't do it, don't fvcking apologize.

She's probably loving every second of this drama.

Just ignore this girl.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Unwanted touching is 'battery.' Consent is a defense. Consent can be express or implied. Here, she gave implied consent for you to touch her by initiating the dance with you and being on the dance floor at a dance party. As long as your behavior was only ordinary and reasonable, then you have not committed battery.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
Unwanted touching is 'battery.' Consent is a defense. Consent can be express or implied. Here, she gave implied consent for you to touch her by initiating the dance with you and being on the dance floor at a dance party. As long as your behavior was only ordinary and reasonable, then you have not committed battery.
Yeah, but if people say that he was under the influence and he's not even completely sure his actions were reasonable how easily can he defend himself?
 

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You are f-----!!!!! God Bless America! You are in BIG TROUBLE if she goes to the police. BIG TROUBLE. They will never take this to trial. Any trial made up of women and a few gay men (who isn't gay in America circa 2008?) will enjoy teaching you a lesson. If I were you I would pray for probation. Lots of sleepness nights for you my friend. Lots of them.

All of this pain for fat flip-flop wearing tramps. Man, you guys are stupid.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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meitenesrigas said:
You are f-----!!!!! God Bless America! You are in BIG TROUBLE if she goes to the police. BIG TROUBLE. They will never take this to trial. Any trial made up of women and a few gay men (who isn't gay in America circa 2008?) will enjoy teaching you a lesson. If I were you I would pray for probation. Lots of sleepness nights for you my friend. Lots of them.

All of this pain for fat flip-flop wearing tramps. Man, you guys are stupid.
You are the one who is stupid.
 

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meitenesrigas said:
You are f-----!!!!! God Bless America! You are in BIG TROUBLE if she goes to the police. BIG TROUBLE. They will never take this to trial. Any trial made up of women and a few gay men (who isn't gay in America circa 2008?) will enjoy teaching you a lesson. If I were you I would pray for probation. Lots of sleepness nights for you my friend. Lots of them.

All of this pain for fat flip-flop wearing tramps. Man, you guys are stupid.
^^ What the fvck?

And where were the witnesses when this alleged molestation happened? :crackup: .

Ignore her ***
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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