apologizin' = afc? need your help right NOW

[playa in trainin']

so.. ill try to make this as short and as simple as possible.

i left my celphone unattended and the following day, i saw it has 5 messages containing:

#1: mwah
#2: where r u nw? take care
#3: (simple quote about me being her special friend)
#4: konban wa.. Gengke deska? *mwah* (now seriously, i dont speak japanese, why would she send me **** like this? lol)
#5: what's the matter with you? why don't you reply?

so all those messages got ignored.

woke up this morning and saw them all. so i txted her:

"goodmorning.. what's up?"

then she replies with, "whatever! hmp!"

thing is, i don't know what to do.. hm.. should i apologize or what? it seems like apologizing to a girl is afc action, simply because this is what i would do back then.

what do you guys think i should do? i need advice, and i really need it now. thanks.

 

[SDBmania]

Well, how is apologizing a bad thing? You say your sorry if you did something wrong. Never saying your sorry would mean that you think you never make mistakes, that's arrogant.

However, this was an honest mistake, so you don't nessisarily need to apologise. Just tell her the truth and see what happens.

Bottom line, it's ok to say I'm sorry. Just don't do it when you did nothing wrong.

 

[jason86]

First of all i can't even believe your giving this a second thought never mind posting it for some tips!!! God save the Queen!!!

P.S. Tell her you didnt have your phone on you while she was texting you. Thank me big time, ive saved your life!!

 

[Okra]

It's okay to apologize if you make a mistake. People make mistakes. If it is something you shouldn't be apologizing about (something trivial) and you do it anyway just to win the favor of the girl....then that is afc and just all around lame.

 

[Okra]

And if you do apologize....don't come off unsure about it....and just don't do it in a lame girly way. So what if you saw some messages on her phone....either apologize or don't and move onto something more important. If she keeps giving you pointless s*** about it then just avoid her and move on.

 

[SDBmania]

Okra, that's exactly my point.

This shouldn't be a big deal. Plus, you have a reasonable exsplination. She's not worth it if she doesn't understand.

 

[Hurri]

do whatever is congruent with what u normally do. i personally have a rule of never saying sorry. in ur situation, i would just say, "i was away and forgot my phone, hope u didnt miss me too much"

 

[AMF]

If you have to ask, its too late anyway.

 

[Caveman]

I don't see any reason why you should appologize. So she texted you and you only saw the texts the next morning? So what? How did you make a mistake? Should you text back immediately cuz she is texting you? WTF?

I wouldn't appologize dor this. I only appologize if there is something i did that i am really sorry about. That almost never happens so mostly i just try to explain why and how things might have went the wrong way. Or how a misunderstanding could have happened.

In this case, not texting back instantly: do not appologize. In fact, make it a part of you and do it this way more often. Sometimes text right back, sometimes wait a while. Or have you nothing else to besides texting?

 

[JJMcLure]

Apologising is not AFC.

But only apologise if you are genuinely in the wrong. And don't beg forgiveness or get forced into some kind of guilt trip or into doing something to make up for it that you don't want to.

In your case I don't see you did anything wrong though.

 

[babemaster2000]

dude, i'm gonna be in the Philippines this august! manila, in fact. What school are you currently in?

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by SDBmania
Okra, that's exactly my point.

This shouldn't be a big deal. Plus, you have a reasonable exsplination. She's not worth it if she doesn't understand.

You were away from your friggin phone. No, it shouldn't be a big deal at all. The fact that it is indicates three possibilities:

1) She's REALLY into you. (good)
2) She's psycho (bad)
3) She's REALLY into you AND she's psycho (ugly)

Play it like it's #1. Just look out for other signs of #2. And if you see #3, RUN!!

 

[biker_gixxer]

Originally posted by Hurri
do whatever is congruent with what u normally do. i personally have a rule of never saying sorry. in ur situation, i would just say, "i was away and forgot my phone, hope u didnt miss me too much"

Exactly!

 

[Chaghatai]

You probably know this but for the benifit of those curious the japanese meant: Good evening, are you well?

More correct japanese would've been

Konban wa o-genki desu ka?

The response (yes, I'm well), would be: Hai, genki desu

Just a little help from someone who's taken japanese 101

As for why. I know japanese students, casual or otherwise frequently "bug" our non-japanese studying/speaking friends with japanese phrases.... it's fun

Ganbattte pureyaa-san!

(good luck/do your best player!)

 

[alphamale1]

The way I can see it from my world is:

A man should never apologise or say sorry if he hasn't done anything wrong.

for example:

1. Her message 'what's the matter with you? why don't you reply?'
why would you reply sorry or apologise to that....you didn't do anything wrong....its not like you done any wrong to her.

One bizzare example:

1. You live with her and some other friends and your mate says 'dude, I bought you some food, its in the plate'. You see the plate (in fact there are two plates), you grab either. You eat it and she gets home and is a little disturbed that someone ate her food. Yes you would apologise.

Now....if you sent you a message and u didn't reply, dont say sorry or apologise cos you haven't done anything wrong....it was because you were busy...not because you ignored her on purpose. If you ignored her, then yes say sorry. But I know that wasn't the case

Later.


Ben

 

[playa in trainin']

Originally posted by babemaster2000
dude, i'm gonna be in the Philippines this august! manila, in fact. What school are you currently in?

Currently studying in Mapua Makati. Do you usually visit Philippines or are from Philippines originally?

 

[playa in trainin']

Ok. Thanks guys. I could get used to this DJ stuff! I got her eating at the palm of my hand!

She's like obsessed over me now. Only downside is i'm kind of losing interest with her because she is'nt giving me too much of a challenge. But that's a good thing, right?