Apologising

[increment]

Is it ok to apologise to a woman, if you follow it up with a pickup line?

 

[dearsappho]

Never apologise to anyone let alone a woman...

 

[Nocturnal]

Discussion...

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by increment
Is it ok to apologise to a woman, if you follow it up with a pickup line?

-Was it really a f*ck-up and not just her getting ticked at you for no reason?

-Did you f*ck up so bad she's going to hold it against you indefinitely?

If so, then you should apologize. I don't know where the hell a pickup line figures into this question.

If you're asking whether it's OK to approach a girl with, "I'm sorry to interrupt, but insert line here", then no, that's weak. Dont' do it.

 

[BlaKTooth]

If u need to apologize, do it once, and that's it. Don't worry if she accepts it or not, u did all u can do.

 

[Keeper]

Originally posted by dearsappho
Never apologise to anyone let alone a woman...

Dude... don't say such evil things. If you hurt someone, apologise. It's the right thing to do.

If you accidentally stabbed someone in the face... apologise.

But if you didn't do anything to hurt the other person. Why apologise?

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by Keeper
If you accidentally stabbed someone in the face... apologise.

How do you accidentally stab someone in the face?

 

[deepraj]

How about "I am sorry to bother you but ...... <insert pick-up line here."

Deepraj

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
How do you accidentally stab someone in the face?

Someone's been running with scissors again.

Originally posted by deepraj
How about "I am sorry to bother you but ...... <insert pick-up line here."

Deepraj

Absolutely not. Why are you sorry? Why are you assuming talking to her is "bothering" her. This is WEAK and REEKS of insecurity.

 

[Luveno]

When I first entered my relationship last year, my girlfriend would sometimes get all pissy and make me feel like I did something wrong. So, I would apologize, almost reflexively.
Then I decided to sit down and think about the whole thing. It didn't make any sense. If someone else were to blame me for something I was not at fault for, I wouldn't apologize even if it meant death... why should I apologize to her?

So, whenever she gets pissy for whatever reason she has to get pissy, I tell her to cool down and talk to me when she's out of her mood. Sure, she hates it then, but she eventually realizes how irrational she has been and instead apologizes to me.

If you do something truly wrong, apology is an honourable thing to do. If you don't know what you did to make her upset, nor does she explain it to you, then you have no reason to apologize.

 

[PRMoon]

Some times you have to aplogize. I mean even if you don't mean it, which usually you should, it can have some postive effects. I think this question goes without saying. You can apologize in so many situations and be dead on course opposed to othertimes apologizing may not be solution.

Never apologise to anyone let alone a woman...

What exactly does this mean? I mean when something you do causes mass damage you can't even give a "Uhhh, My bad." ???

 

[jakeyboy]

IMO, apologize only in a major situation when you are certain it is necessary.. and only if you really mean it.

 

[MacDiddy]

A DJ has to be careful about apologies... It is in essence anti-alpha behaviour....

Its also very suplicative to apologise... it means you've done something wrong... that you are indeed not kool or smooth...

I would leave apologies to business matters or for apologizing on someone elses behalf.
such as "I'm sorry for the delay in your trial mister X" or I'm sorry my friend punch your cat"

The right attitude is as follow:
If I bump into some chick, I'd make it look like it was her fault.. If I stepped on a chicks foot, I'd turn it around by telling her she has big feet..... and so on and so forth...

an apology will put me in a position of weakness... and any HB can smell it a mile away...

 

[MetalFortress]

^Geez, talk about overanalysis (and being someone that really doesn't sound that appealing to know). You sound like a KJ to me.

Luveno is right here. If it's your fault, apologize. If it's not, don't.

 

[MacDiddy]

Metal wrote:
^Geez, talk about overanalysis (and being someone that really doesn't sound that appealing to know). You sound like a KJ to me.

I'm relieved you find me un-appealing...... coz you're really not my type.... If you want to find some appealing men than I suggest you do a search on google as a starter...

Anyway, my advice is meant for an AFC such as yourself.... in developing a more congruent and alpha frame...

 

[MetalFortress]

1) Why is someone who's trying to use ****y and funny on me talking to ME about finding men appealing? Sorry bro, but I'm straight as an arrow.

2) AFC? Ha. Wrooooong. Also, the true alphas I know are guys who have an natural magnetism. Your description is that of a guy who naturally repels people by being a dick.

 

[Kerensky]

Originally posted by MacDiddy
Its also very suplicative to apologise... it means you've done something wrong... that you are indeed not kool or smooth...

Well, you can't always be "kool" and when you really DO mess up, take responsibility. It shows you have dignity and are responsible. Plus, in my experience stuff you drag out and try to BS tend to blow up and when I just apologized, I learned something as well as created a better image of myself.

Originally posted by MacDiddy
I would leave apologies to business matters or for apologizing on someone elses behalf.
such as "I'm sorry for the delay in your trial mister X" or I'm sorry my friend punch your cat"

I wouldn't suggest apologizing on anyone's behalf. PEople will associate negative stuff with you and every time you come over they'll be liike, "aww crap is here to apologize for another fuk-up?" I feel that way with some people who ask for HW, money, and stuff like that I'm just like, "aww crap not again. Aholes..."

Originally posted by MacDiddy
The right attitude is as follow:
If I bump into some chick, I'd make it look like it was her fault.. If I stepped on a chicks foot, I'd turn it around by telling her she has big feet..... and so on and so forth...

No actually, I think that shows that you are irresponsible and can't take the consequences of your actions. Seriously, Metal is right. You're going to look like a jerk just stepping on people's feet and saying it's their fault.

 

[Kerensky]

Originally posted by increment
Is it ok to apologise to a woman, if you follow it up with a pickup line?

Now this idea is just plain bad. Please explain why you wan't to follow it with a pickup line. . .

 

[Nocturnal]

Where did the idea of "apologizing is bad" come from on this site?

It came from the idea that apologizing to a woman because of something miniscule, or basically doing it out of fear/worship, is bad. Apologizing is ok when you are in the wrong and you need to take responsibility as a man would. If you're afraid to take responsibility because you think you'll lose face, that's just cowardice and insecurity.

 

[MacDiddy]

Sorry bro, but I'm straight as an arrow.

Hey man.... its really none of my business

Also, the true alphas I know are guys who have an natural magnetism.

So you only "know" of alphas... you should try being one too.... and get back to us about how you go...

I'd say if an alpha starts apologizing then he'd lose his natural magnetism....
let me give you an example, if a alpha guy accidentally push a ladies purse down over the table, and she says "hey pick it up" does the alpha dude pick it up and says sorry??? If he does, he's lost respect from her and everyone else watching...