Apologising

[Alpheta]

I cantg apologise. Maybe its some issue with in me but i cant seem to apologise to anyone. I feel like if i do, ill be submissive, especially to a girl/gf.

Just recently my gf swore at me as a joke and i told her im done with her (as i told her beforer not to) she begged me back and we seemed to understand that if i dont like something, i shouldnt do it to her.

Fast forward a month and i jokingly tell her to f off, she throws a fit and tells me to apologise i laugh it off and refuse and instead tell her i didnt know she would take it so badly. She says that i would end it with her if she did it so i should apologise. I tell her i slipped up but dont apologise. She tells me that she thinks we should end it if my pride can not allow me to apologise.

I mean maybe i would apologise but now threatning to leave me makes me more firm on not apologising.IM in NC at the moment.

Do you think apologising shows weakness?

 

[Tictac]

Does apologizing show weakness? It doesn't have to. And sometimes it's necessary. You make a mistake and it puts another person off. Saying "I apologize", once, clearly and sincerely shows you to be someone that takes responsibility for the inevitable.

Certainly not apologizing when you should does not. It also reveals some pathology. So get over yourself.

That bullsh*t you typed about not being able to apologize is a bogus little boy excuse. You threaten to dump her over nothing and go NC on her over nothing? She should dump you.

 

[RangerMIke]

If you are wrong apologize. ONCE. Don't beg for forgiveness.

 

[HoneyHitter]

In this case, apologizing is submission. You already admitted that you were wrong. What could an apology possibly add to that? Nothing.

She's just exploiting the situation to get the upper hand in the relationship.

Most of the time I usually apologize if it's something important enough. But if a woman (or anyone else) disregards the fact that I admitted to a mistake and "dictates" an apology, I certainly WILL refuse. Disrespectful powerplay.

 

[El Payaso]

Well, you pushed yourself into a tight situation. Just apologize once but no more. Don't beg. Don't grovel. Nothing. Either call her or visit her and apologize.

If she still decides to be mad, that is on her. She might have a lot to say/yell at you but just ignore it. The only thing you care about is apologizing once.

Additionally, it's always easy to diffuse these types of situations with humor. When she got angry, you can simply pull her close to you and make a joke about the situation. Like saying "Oh, I'm sorry, babe. I want telling you to f*ck off. I was telling you to f*ck me". Then proceed to f*ck her.

 

[BadNews]

How old are you? This is the most retarded post I've read in a while.

A) You show weakness by making the snap decision to end things with her because she swore at you, AND THEN WENT BACK ON THAT DECISION. This is the most beta thing I've read in a while. If you don't want her swearing at you, fine, confidently tell her that it is not okay. If you actually wanted to end things because of that, fine...BUT MAKE YOUR DECISION AND STICK TO IT. This is a childish game that makes you look weak, pathetic and insecure.

B) I don't ever apologize to anyone, unless I decide it is something that is complely necessary. If I'm late? I'll give a quick explaination, but "sorry" will not leave my mouth. If I've done something to seriously wrong someone, I will own it, like a man, and apologize. To do anything other than that is immature. Blindly clinging to your pride shows weakness, and is pathetic. In your situation. Yes, she deserves an apology. Better yet, she probably deserves a real man; one far less immature and insecure.