Aol and chatting to the ladys (advice)

[buckwheat18]

Do you guys think it would be a good idea to get aol sn's from ladys? I asked this girl for hers and got it. I plan to talk to her online in a few days. I worked my DJ on her and had her laughing she is the kind that would be good for relationships, but she lives too far away..ah well. Sorry to get off in a tangent my last question is how long should I talk with her online?....any other advice would be cool. Thanx,

 

[Microphone Fiend]

AOL chatting is a very interesting topic here at DJ and other websites. On one hand you get to practice talking to girls without her knowing you're unconfident shy, or what have you, and you can keep an aura of mystery. But on the other hand if you are online 24/7 you just come across as a loser.

I'd say just do it in moderation. Try not to go on too much. It works best in situations like yours where you can't see the person often because you are too far away, but for your typical girl next door, scratch the whole "aol" idea.

 

[DJoneday]

I don't suggest online for girls you see often at school, the only people I really talk to it are girls from other schools, family in other states, guy friends, and people from this site. For people you see often at school though, it only slaughters like 90% of your school convos, so don't do it too much.

 

[RaMar]

Originally posted by Microphone Fiend
AOL chatting is a very interesting topic here at DJ and other websites. On one hand you get to practice talking to girls without her knowing you're unconfident shy, or what have you, and you can keep an aura of mystery. But on the other hand if you are online 24/7 you just come across as a loser.

I'd say just do it in moderation. Try not to go on too much. It works best in situations like yours where you can't see the person often because you are too far away, but for your typical girl next door, scratch the whole "aol" idea.

the not being online at lot is a real problem for me. I'm a web designer so I'm online all the time. Like all the time.

I like AIM chatting myself because it does hide your uncofident and shy side (im almost past this) when your starting out. It also gives you the ability to think about your response so you don't say something stupid. If your a more expirence DJ you can hide your shyness when talking to a girl in person so you definately don't need AIM to get to know a chick.

Anyways AIM has some definite positives and definite negatives. I think its something you should descide wether you want to use it or not.

 

[LordBrian]

Originally posted by RaMar
the not being online at lot is a real problem for me. I'm a web designer so I'm online all the time. Like all the time.

I like AIM chatting myself because it does hide your uncofident and shy side (im almost past this) when your starting out. It also gives you the ability to think about your response so you don't say something stupid. If your a more expirence DJ you can hide your shyness when talking to a girl in person so you definately don't need AIM to get to know a chick.

Anyways AIM has some definite positives and definite negatives. I think its something you should descide wether you want to use it or not.

Maybe you should make a seperate AIM account. That you only give to the ladies. Then ONLY when you feel like DJin, you can turn on your other AIM account. Problem solved.

 

[RaMar]

Originally posted by LordBrian
Maybe you should make a seperate AIM account. That you only give to the ladies. Then ONLY when you feel like DJin, you can turn on your other AIM account. Problem solved.

Thats too much work . Besides I don't hide the fact that I'm on computers a lot and am good with them. Whenever I make a cool animation or something I just show off and show it to the chick who of course goes how did you do that?

I'm not going to go through the work of handling two AIM accounts just to appear like I'm not online a lot.


DISCLAIMER: I don't recommend any of you guys become geeks because you think it will get you girls if they say "How did you do that!" when you show them something you made/claim to have made.

 

[LordBrian]

Originally posted by RaMar
Thats too much work . Besides I don't hide the fact that I'm on computers a lot and am good with them. Whenever I make a cool animation or something I just show off and show it to the chick who of course goes how did you do that?

I'm not going to go through the work of handling two AIM accounts just to appear like I'm not online a lot.

I dont think its lots of work. You just fill out a little form, then get your new account. When you want to switch, all you have to do is logout and login with the other one.

I agree about the hiding that you are on the computer a lot, however to counter that I would say that your time is important, and the girls have to wait to talk to you. I know i dont like having 5 people message me while im playing around.

 

[RaMar]

yeah, I guess I should start putting away messages up more often. Then at least it won't look like I'm at the computer. I usually just walk away from the computer without putting one up.

 

[Bombshell]

I wouldn't suggest using internet chat when trying to pick up chicks. All it does is take away from your skills. When talking to someone your body language and voice tone is in most cases much more important than what you say. AIM or MSN is no substitute for the real thing, and if your shy all your doing is hurting yourself. Yea you may be able to talk to someone your normally shy to but its not going to help you when you actually see them face to face. If your shy what you really need to do is quit with the messengers and go talk to real chick face to face to build up your confidence so you wont be shy.

If you are going to use it, it should be used like a phone where the convo should be short and lead to a get-to-gether, and make sure you end it at its peak. If she sees you on aim then she already knows your not busy and you loose a chunk of your mystery, especially if your on a lot. Remember the same rules for when using the phone

If a chick asks you if you have it just say yea, but I never have time to go on. There now she knows your not going to be a chump by giving her your SN ( an afc said yea I do, writes it down on a piece of paper then goes home and waits for the chick to come on.... to think i used to do that....) and she knows your a busy person.

By all means go ahead and use messengers, just not to pick up chicks. In fact if anyone wants to talk about DJ stuff on MSN or Yahoo messenger, im [email protected] or dope105 on yahoo. Thats my 2 cents hope it helped.