"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Anything I should add to my breakup message?

NFC

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My gf is totally pissing me off, and to be honest.. I can't stand being with her for another second. So I'm sending her an email tonight.

On friday she emailed me with "hey, whats going on between us?"

i replied with: "i just don't feel like im getting the time i deserve.
like i kinda go out of my way to see you and stuff or talk to you.
but you like never make an attempt to come up to me or talk to me ya know.
im not the kinda guy that is going to follow you around or try and find you constantly, so i hope that isnt what you're expecting.
i want a little give on your part."

I came back the next day and saw that she read the message, but never replied.

So I figured she just wanted to talk to me face to face about it.. cool cool.. I expected her to say something to me today, but never did. So now I'm done, I'm breaking up with her, no turning back. Here is the draft I have:

hey well i hate to do it like this
but i dont see a point in having this drag along any longer
i told you what was up and you didn't change your act
im done wasting my time

peace

--

I kinda want to be an *******.. but I don't want to be too much of an *******. She needs to realize it's her fault for not shaping up her act.. so yeah. What do you guys think?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well, I got tired of waiting for you guys to reply, so I sent it as is.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Should have just told her face to face or at least over the phone. It would have dispelled any unanswered questions.
 
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NFC said:
Well, I got tired of waiting for you guys to reply, so I sent it as is.
You waited for barely 4 minutes.:rolleyes:
 

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You shouldn't have sent her any email. Just ignore her and move on with your life... oh you clearly demonstrated how patient you are, while waiting for our replies.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Should have just told her face to face or at least over the phone. It would have dispelled any unanswered questions.
I don't care what she has to say though. Or any of her unanswered questions. I could care less if I ever talk to her again.

I'm ready to start gaming other chicks.
 

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Rastaman said:
You shouldn't have sent her any email. Just ignore her and move on with your life... oh you clearly demonstrated how patient you are, while waiting for our replies.
I just wanted to do it before she did.

And I'm actually a patient person, just like I said.. I can't stand being with her any longer. I'm ready to start gaming other chicks.
 

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Use this love poem . . .

Dearest love,

" You lying wh0re. You used me. You never loved me. I hope you slide under a gas truck and taste your own blood! DIE,DIE! I want my records back, I WANT MY RECORDS BACK!"

All the best,

NFC
 

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NFC said:
I just wanted to do it before she did.

And I'm actually a patient person, just like I said.. I can't stand being with her any longer. I'm ready to start gaming other chicks.

UHHH ROFL?

NFC said:
I just wanted to do it before she did.

And I'm actually a patient person, just like I said.. I can't stand being with her any longer. I'm ready to start gaming other chicks.
Maybe you should slow down and screw your head on straight, it sounds like you might be headin down that lonnnnnely road of oneitis. Just my humble oppinion.
 

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Dude!

If you are going to break up with an Email you should at least go to the trouble of making a powerpoint presentation so you can go through all the reasons you are dumping her in easy to understand point form.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

JLW

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Jay Jay said:
If you are going to break up with an Email you should at least go to the trouble of making a powerpoint presentation so you can go through all the reasons you are dumping her in easy to understand point form.

HAHAHA


classic.
 

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Jay Jay said:
If you are going to break up with an Email you should at least go to the trouble of making a powerpoint presentation so you can go through all the reasons you are dumping her in easy to understand point form.
nice.
 

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Jay Jay said:
If you are going to break up with an Email you should at least go to the trouble of making a powerpoint presentation so you can go through all the reasons you are dumping her in easy to understand point form.
Jay Jay wins this tread lol:cheer:
Seriously though, I didn't take the time to read trough our entire message but I would say It's better to do it in person or over the phone.. Too late now though
 

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What are you talking about? The message is only 4 lines long.

I kept it short and simple. Heh.

And how would I be getting oneitis by breaking up with her?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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NFC said:
My gf is totally pissing me off, and to be honest.. I can't stand being with her for another second. So I'm sending her an email tonight.

On friday she emailed me with "hey, whats going on between us?"

i replied with: "i just don't feel like im getting the time i deserve.
like i kinda go out of my way to see you and stuff or talk to you.
but you like never make an attempt to come up to me or talk to me ya know.
im not the kinda guy that is going to follow you around or try and find you constantly, so i hope that isnt what you're expecting.
i want a little give on your part."

I came back the next day and saw that she read the message, but never replied.

So I figured she just wanted to talk to me face to face about it.. cool cool.. I expected her to say something to me today, but never did. So now I'm done, I'm breaking up with her, no turning back. Here is the draft I have:

hey well i hate to do it like this
but i dont see a point in having this drag along any longer
i told you what was up and you didn't change your act
im done wasting my time

peace

--

I kinda want to be an *******.. but I don't want to be too much of an *******. She needs to realize it's her fault for not shaping up her act.. so yeah. What do you guys think?
Emails are bad. Would you ask a woman out in person, or would you just email her?

Women can lie. "Oh, yeah, I never got your email! That's odd!" You'd be showing a lot more guts by doing it in person or over the phone (not voice mail either. That's the same kind of thing as email). Talking one on one makes it final.

I will admit, in my more AFC days, I did a little breakup note (a long time ago, so cut me some slack). Guess what? It was promised to get to my ex the next day. Guess what? It didn't happen, and finally, late at night, ex gives me a call, and (technically) breaks up with ME.

Yeah. Letters, email and voice mails are not good. There's too much chance of it being ignored. Too much chance of it not getting to the right person.

Either stop seeing her, and she'll hopefully get a clue if she doesn't change, OR you should do the right thing and break up with her in person. THAT'S showing guts. Anything else is seen as wimpy. Like you can't deal with her in person.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
Dearest love,

" You lying wh0re. You used me. You never loved me. I hope you slide under a gas truck and taste your own blood! DIE,DIE! I want my records back, I WANT MY RECORDS BACK!"

All the best,

NFC
I should have done that. I keep finding CDs that are "missing" from my collection... bastard woman! My best friend thinks him and I should drop extra change and the occassional dollar into a jar until I have enough to replace what I lost in the breakup.

(music means a lot to me, btw, and none of them were crappy albums....)
 
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