"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Anything I could've done with this approach?

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So I seen a well dressed Hb9, tall, athletic in her late 20s

She was texting on the phone immersed and seemed closed off

She is taller than me

I approached as she was walking

I said "hello hello"

She then looked and sort a half smiled

I said "I saw you and wanted to say hi to you"

I went in confident and communicated well

She did smile

She smiled and said "aww, thank you" "I can't really" and she walked off.

She was warm and from that behaviour I sensed another day she could've been up for it, she seemed the open type

I haven't been going to the gym, I'm slim, however I'll go back

Anything else I could've done?
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Man, you've registered almost 8 years ago on this forum, but you're acting as a clueless, socially uncalibrated man who never heard of being suave. :rolleyes:


How about next time don't approach a woman as a beggar:

and definitely not when she's busy:
Cheers man

Lesson learnt

I'd rather get the cold harsh advice
 
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In my experience when a girl is on her phone like that you can’t just go up to them and start with the whole “hey how are you? I wanted to come over and talk to you”. Never works. The only shot you have is walk by her and say something funny, but keep walking. If she responds, depending on what she says then you can stop.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You approached her, that is good, it's the only thing that matters. She just was not interested.

Dont listen to pipeman84, keep approaching women, but your approach needs some adjustments.
What would you recommend to adjust? I'll approach women when they are walking towards me
 

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She was texting on the phone immersed and seemed closed off
She was likely not open to being approached. If you were 6'0"+ and fit/muscular, you might have caught her attention.

She is taller than me
Almost no women are open to being approached by a man shorter than they are.

I said "hello hello"

She then looked and sort a half smiled

I said "I saw you and wanted to say hi to you"
Weak opener.

I'll approach women when they are walking towards me
That helps.
 

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"You know it's bad texting and walking at the same time"
Say it with a smile on your face.
 
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