Anyone try working on plate by getting older female colleagues to nudge her into liking you?

[MatureDJ]

I was reading this, and it got me interested:

Help! Everyone in My Office Is Pressuring Me to Date My Older Co-Worker.

The sexual desire on my part is nil.

slate.com

My older co-worker has a “puppy crush” on me. This is encouraged by our office matriarchs. The sexual desire on my part is nil. I don’t want to hurt him, but I spent most of high school and college dating one guy. I usually use the “I have a boyfriend” line to ward off unwanted advances, but we broke up over the pandemic. I don’t want to hurt my co-worker. He is generally a good guy, but the older ladies in the office are all invested in us like we’re in a Hallmark movie. It is creepy. I have turned him down twice, and they tell him “third time is the charm” and try to cheer him on and wear me down.

In an attempt to dampen this, I told one lady that he wasn’t my type. She then interrogated me. I admitted stupidly I didn’t find him attractive, and she called me “selfish and shallow.” Now they have all piled on me about how “looks aren’t everything.” He is 29 to my 21. I need this job. I have loans. I don’t know how to deal with this short of screaming in the middle of the office “I DON’T WANT TO SLEEP WITH HIM.” I know this is stupid, but I feel like I am being hunted. Can you help me not blow this up in my face? He is generally a good guy, but every time I let him down gently, these ladies take it like a challenge.

 

[EyeBRollin]

No one can convince a woman to like who she wants to like.

 

[SW15]

That's a weird situation. The woman writing seeking advice is 21 and the guy in question is 29. The age difference isn't that bad.

The effort isn't going to work for the man and it's likely to turn into an HR nightmare.