Anyone overcome ED before?

[Degenerate Haven]

What did the trick?

 

[HaleyBaron]

Exercise, eating well, being attracted to women.

 

[Blacksheep]

Adding sun exposure, drinking adequate amount of water, sleep quality, less stress, losing weight, nofap.

Also good idea to check on testo and some other exams to check if its everything ok.

 

[Barrister]

What did the trick?

You mean overcome it like right in the moment? Sure - have her give you a bl0wjob. If you mean you are having problems on a regular basis then you may want to look at your diet/sleep schedule.

If you are only 30 it is more than likely just performance anxiety. Everyone gets nervous with a new partner from time to time. It happens. Get some viagra or something if your performance anxiety is really bad.

 

[xplt]

It‘s just in your head. And once it‘s there, it stays and starts to manifest itself.

Your libido is still there?

Diet, stressreduction, exercise, good sleep…
A quarter of a sildenafil to trick your brain can help immense.

Most important is to relax and get this out of your head. Enjoy the moment and the feeling.
Only sleep with women you‘re attracted to.

I‘ve dealt with this myself since I landed in bed with a girl who I didn‘t like naked visually and my friend said no and didn’t want to get hard. It ****ed with me for good a half year, but there was also a breakup involved at this time I guess. Once it went well for some rounds it started to disappear from my mind and I‘m back to normal.

I‘m pretty sure the combination of nofap, few months of dryspell, the breakup and said situation brought me there. Use it or lose it.

I‘ll never forget the advice of @mrgoodstuff …
„Find a ***** that desires you.“
That was my cure last year.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I took the blue pill. Now I have the yellow pill. It lasts longer.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

It‘s just in your head. And once it‘s there, it stays and starts to manifest itself.

Your libido is still there?

Diet, stressreduction, exercise, good sleep…
A quarter of a sildenafil to trick your brain can help immense.

Most important is to relax and get this out of your head. Enjoy the moment and the feeling.
Only sleep with women you‘re attracted to.

I‘ve dealt with this myself since I landed in bed with a girl who I didn‘t like naked visually and my friend said no and didn’t want to get hard. It ****ed with me for good a half year, but there was also a breakup involved at this time I guess. Once it went well for some rounds it started to disappear from my mind and I‘m back to normal.

I‘m pretty sure the combination of nofap, few months of dryspell, the breakup and said situation brought me there. Use it or lose it.

I‘ll never forget the advice of @mrgoodstuff …
„Find a ***** that desires you.“
That was my cure last year.

Gets hard without thinking about it huh?

 

[xplt]

Gets hard without thinking about it huh?

Works like magic. I have this always on my mind first, when I hear ED

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Works like magic. I have this always on my mind first, when I hear ED

So my question. Coming out of the space where you have to worry about getting erections and you probably do things to make it more likely to happen, how has the quality of your life improved out of sex? I'm going to guess your confidence is SUPER on point vs what it could be where the d1ck wasn't cooperating.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

It‘s just in your head. And once it‘s there, it stays and starts to manifest itself.

Your libido is still there?

Diet, stressreduction, exercise, good sleep…
A quarter of a sildenafil to trick your brain can help immense.

Most important is to relax and get this out of your head. Enjoy the moment and the feeling.
Only sleep with women you‘re attracted to.

I‘ve dealt with this myself since I landed in bed with a girl who I didn‘t like naked visually and my friend said no and didn’t want to get hard. It ****ed with me for good a half year, but there was also a breakup involved at this time I guess. Once it went well for some rounds it started to disappear from my mind and I‘m back to normal.

I‘m pretty sure the combination of nofap, few months of dryspell, the breakup and said situation brought me there. Use it or lose it.

I‘ll never forget the advice of @mrgoodstuff …
„Find a ***** that desires you.“
That was my cure last year.

My estimate is all these viagra commercials came out in the last 10 years or so due to men being "beat down" in their various relationship situations or having a lady who insists on having "control" and you realize those are "boner killers". I believe OVER 1/2 of the "ED" cases are just like yours. It doesn't cooperate due to an unfavorable situation whether it's due to lost attraction, being controlled, sex being rationed to a tiny amount so that eventually you lose sexual confidence.

 

[xplt]

My estimate is all these viagra commercials came out in the last 10 years or so due to men being "beat down" in their various relationship situations or having a lady who insists on having "control" and you realize those are "boner killers". I believe OVER 1/2 of the "ED" cases are just like yours. It doesn't cooperate due to an unfavorable situation whether it's due to lost attraction, being controlled, sex being rationed to a tiny amount so that eventually you lose sexual confidence.

Possible. The other part are bad habits and unhealthy, lazy lifestyles combined with sitting jobs.

So my question. Coming out of the space where you have to worry about getting erections and you probably do things to make it more likely to happen, how has the quality of your life improved out of sex? I'm going to guess your confidence is SUPER on point vs what it could be where the d1ck wasn't cooperating.

I definitely got an ego boost after everything was working again. I already felt like the boss when I had a solid erection for the first time with a woman who went through this with me after some time of failed tries. The whole embarrassment which weighted on me was gone this moment. A feeling of happiness stayed for quite a while, till sex was the most normal thing again. I carried some kind of momentum with me. Jobwise, socialwise...
At some point I just laughed at my own irrational thoughts, even I still had to face this issue. Like the thought, that I would never be able to have a normal sexlife again. Being 34 and healthy, even testosterone levels checked by my doc, there was no other explanation than being held back by my own mind.

But one thing stayed till this day... whenever I meet a new woman and things start to get hot for the first time, I ask myself if I am able to get it up if I need to. But it's the thought of "need to" that's the most damaging in this situation.

 

[lost_blackbird]

I'd argue ED is a blessing in disguise.

 

[derby1]

No fap, here was my symptoms after 15 years of sex plus fapping/porn.

1)E.D
2)only extreme stuff would arouse me.
3)rubbery erect
4) Acorn head,even when erect. (instead of darth vader helmet)
5) erection would deflate real fast
6)wouldnt feel anything in a woman, as it didnt feel like my hand.
7) erection about 60% of its known brutal size from years ago.

I first did 30 days of nofap and relapsed. however by day 30 my original size penis was back, and morning wood. being close to a woman in a supermarket sent me wild, but nothing happened downstairs. I needed a good 90 days for arousal to come back.

by day 60 I could have sex with a woman, my erection was aiming at my face, the recovery was that good, it also stayed erect whilst a woman changed position. plus stayed erect after climax.

I cannot express how good nofap is, when you have fried your dopamine receptors

 

[Solomon]

No fap, here was my symptoms after 15 years of sex plus fapping/porn.

1)E.D
2)only extreme stuff would arouse me.
3)rubbery erect
4) Acorn head,even when erect. (instead of darth vader helmet)
5) erection would deflate real fast
6)wouldnt feel anything in a woman, as it didnt feel like my hand.
7) erection about 60% of its known brutal size from years ago.

I first did 30 days of nofap and relapsed. however by day 30 my original size penis was back, and morning wood. being close to a woman in a supermarket sent me wild, but nothing happened downstairs. I needed a good 90 days for arousal to come back.

by day 60 I could have sex with a woman, my erection was aiming at my face, the recovery was that good, it also stayed erect whilst a woman changed position. plus stayed erect after climax.

I cannot express how good nofap is, when you have fried your dopamine receptors

I've done no fap for almost 2 years
I have had more wet dreams than when I'm a teen-ager

another thing that helps less booze to much booze kills your test
Great sleep and diet
and working out to help relive stress

You will get morning wood like you 16 again

The biggest one for me now is stress and good sleep guys don't realize how stress affects you

 

[lost_blackbird]

Literally never had a wet dream in my entire life. I'm 48.

 

[derby1]

The biggest one for me now is stress and good sleep guys don't realize how stress affects you

deffo, coffee was causing me broken sleep due to constant running of my adrenal gland, lack of sleep stops you from losing weight regardless of your workout.

I had to quit decaf aswell sadly, but two weeks in ive lost 2kg and just started a better sleeping pattern, but its still a little messed up.

 

[HaleyBaron]

The penis does not lie. Remember that.

What does it mean?

If you are with a woman who you are not totally into......bad energy whatever.....this will reflect in your penis.

If you are with a woman who is not totally into you.....bad energy whatever.....this will reflect in your penis.

The penis does not lie. It will shy away from toxic energy encounters and literally come to stand at salute when the energy is good.

When you are into her and she is into you, there is no ED.

More men need to accept this. I've been with a woman where I just could not get my **** up cause she was mentally aggravating. At the time, I thought it was me, but then the next girl I got to just a week after was totally into me. I'm talking wet to the point that it was thick between my fingering fingers. My dvck was hard that night and I must have done it about five times from evening to morning.

The penis never lies and I learned to trust it more.

 

[Barrister]

More men need to accept this. I've been with a woman where I just could not get my **** up cause she was mentally aggravating. At the time, I thought it was me, but then the next girl I got to just a week after was totally into me. I'm talking wet to the point that it was thick between my fingering fingers. My dvck was hard that night and I must have done it about five times from evening to morning.

The penis never lies and I learned to trust it more.

I agree with this 100%. However, I have been with a chick before during the 1st time where I psyched myself up too much and was overthinking things - wanting to just dominate her. Otherwise, things were great between us - but I went limp and it was embarrassing. However, she was awesome about it and said “I know what you need” and put my d1ck in her mouth and I was good to go immediately after.

Point is I DO think you can psyche yourself out. Usually during a first time. Not really so much about the d1ck lying but the mind overthinking. They can both happen.

 

[RickTheToad]

Get your numbers checked. You can try increasing your zinc, folic acid, lysine and other sups to help fix the ED issue.

 

[Barrister]

Oh you are correct.

Any man can have a crisis in confidence.

Where does it come from?

Masculine energy? in a way. confidence is FATHER energy (when you go after what you want, when you take action....these are units of confidence)

just as much as self esteem energy is like MOTHER energy, when you look after your own needs......

Yes we can supply both energies to ourselves.

Letting go of your (confidence) masculine energy, will surely see a decline in the rise of the penis, there is no doubt

Don’t disagree - although I wouldn’t say I had a lack of confidence at that time. More that I was thinking “I want to be rock hard for this chick” and started overthinking if it was going to be as hard as I want. Basically mindfu*ked myself and went completely limp. Just focusing on the wrong thing instead of her body. I suppose you lump it in with confidence to an extent - but not quite the same in my mind.