amnbyrd
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Just wondering if there were any other ppl on here in the active duty military. And if being in the military makes a difference on your game with girls, keeping in mind that you might only be in an area for a short amount of time.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Anyone here military?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
mahon83050
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I was never in the military (wish I was when I was younger) and I think the answer to your question is yes. I think Boot Camp turns boys into men.
amnbyrd
Don Juan
I mean when it comes to girls do you do anything differently seeing how you may not be in the area for too long? I just graduated from my tech school and theres ppl who've only known each other for a few weeks and have gotten married. So should anything be treated differently or should you just do things the same for the most part.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
amnbyrd
Don Juan
I meant more like when it comes to relationships and being in the military how do you go about being with someone but knowing you could be leaving soon. Do you just go into a relationship and tell the girl to just see where things go? Or what? I mean how do you look at things-like do you even bother knowing you might not be in the area for too long?
Oh man. I'm in a good relationship but it really really sucks at the same time. In the USMC (infantry) you are always busy training and have very little time to go home unless your stationed near home.
My advice would be to break up with her before you join. Most every Marine I know is married or just get a different piece of ass every weekend. the worst feeling in the world is always having the thought of who your girl back home is screwing. I dont know how the other branches are though , I'd think it would be the same for them too,
My advice would be to break up with her before you join. Most every Marine I know is married or just get a different piece of ass every weekend. the worst feeling in the world is always having the thought of who your girl back home is screwing. I dont know how the other branches are though , I'd think it would be the same for them too,
Teflon_Mcgee
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Warbler hit it. I did 4 years in the USMC infantry. I was in the field 27 nights per month. I spent close to 2 years over seas. I never stayed in one place for more than a few weeks at a time.
Do not even think about relationships in tthis situation. They will make you MISERABLE! If your are faithful you'll miss out on a few good times and you'll be worried about your girl banging somebody else (she will be. no doubt.) If your not faithful you'll feel guilty and you'll still worry about your girl banging somebody else.
And when your 1000 miles away it's lonely and no matter how busy you are you spend alot of time in your own head. This is not good if your thinking about your girl and even worse when you get the letter. Either a letter from her ending it or from one of your buds telling you shes f^cking every guy in town.
Now, OTOH, if you're just joining another branch or going for a more rear echelon oriented job then it's no different than any other 9-5 job except your woman will be surrounded by a ratio of 500 guys to every girl, some of wich will have more game and be better looking than you. Choose your woman well and don't trust her for a minute.
Just so you know, i was never scorned by a woman while I was in. I am not speaking as a bitter mysoganist. I'm speaking as a smart observant person who watched these scenarios unfold countless times by guys who though their girl/relationships were somehow "different."
Do not even think about relationships in tthis situation. They will make you MISERABLE! If your are faithful you'll miss out on a few good times and you'll be worried about your girl banging somebody else (she will be. no doubt.) If your not faithful you'll feel guilty and you'll still worry about your girl banging somebody else.
And when your 1000 miles away it's lonely and no matter how busy you are you spend alot of time in your own head. This is not good if your thinking about your girl and even worse when you get the letter. Either a letter from her ending it or from one of your buds telling you shes f^cking every guy in town.
Now, OTOH, if you're just joining another branch or going for a more rear echelon oriented job then it's no different than any other 9-5 job except your woman will be surrounded by a ratio of 500 guys to every girl, some of wich will have more game and be better looking than you. Choose your woman well and don't trust her for a minute.
Just so you know, i was never scorned by a woman while I was in. I am not speaking as a bitter mysoganist. I'm speaking as a smart observant person who watched these scenarios unfold countless times by guys who though their girl/relationships were somehow "different."
Fred Da Head
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I'm Navy.
One of my friends (he's Army) had his girlfriend dump him this year because he's in the military. Thing is, he had almost two more years left here at the Royal Military College (think West Point) and except for a few months of summer training, he was going to be here all the time. Just imagine if he'd been deployable.
I think it helps the game, if only because of confidence; it seems especially true for those who have done tours: being somewhere where people want to kill you and where you could die at any moment puts things back in the proper perspective, I'd assume. Between confidence and the sense of humour everyone seems to develop (to cope with all the bullcrap), the game gets a lot better.
One of my friends (he's Army) had his girlfriend dump him this year because he's in the military. Thing is, he had almost two more years left here at the Royal Military College (think West Point) and except for a few months of summer training, he was going to be here all the time. Just imagine if he'd been deployable.
I think it helps the game, if only because of confidence; it seems especially true for those who have done tours: being somewhere where people want to kill you and where you could die at any moment puts things back in the proper perspective, I'd assume. Between confidence and the sense of humour everyone seems to develop (to cope with all the bullcrap), the game gets a lot better.
Fred Da Head
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Yeah, but that's because the Air Force is basically civvies with blue clothes. 
Just had to throw in a bit of interservice (and international) rivalry.
Just had to throw in a bit of interservice (and international) rivalry.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.