"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Anyone here ever gotten a nose job? Did it make a huge difference?

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I'm going to visit an otolaryngologist later today to have my nose looked at for reconstructive surgery since it always feels like my breathing is suboptimal and also because my nose always feels clogged.

However, I was going to inquire about plastic surgery as well. I've always been generally comfortable with my facial looks, however, when I turn my head to the side or an angle like 45 degrees the middle of my nose bridge has always been kind of an issue for me and I worry that it's one small step away from giving me pretty awesome facial looks. It just needs to be "filed down" or reduced.

Anyone here ever gotten plastic surgery for their nose purely for cosmetic reasons and did it make a huge difference in terms of women?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yup.
 

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I've thought about it. I feel like the difference it might have would be due to your newfound confidence rather than whatever difference you look like after a plastic surgery. Try reading Psycho-Cybernetics. It's by a plastic surgeon who wrote about how somebody's self-image can be changed without plastic surgery, and how sometimes his clients would be the same even after surgery.
 

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I'll give it a look. Anyway, it's also not that I just have a "bump on my nose", my ridge is bony and is 'humped' yes but I also have a deviated septum that pulls my nose slightly left and taut downwards. So it's not just purely cosmetic stuff.
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'll give it a look. Anyway, it's also not that I just have a "bump on my nose", my ridge is bony and is 'humped' yes but I also have a deviated septum that pulls my nose slightly left and taut downwards. So it's not just purely cosmetic stuff.
If there's more than cosmetic reasons then it sounds like there's no reason not to. I have a buddy who is a natural who got plastic surgery on his ears for purely cosmetic reasons. This is a guy who slept with over 30 or 40 women before he was 21, and gets quality quite often.

People have insecurities. It's natural and nothing wrong with doing something about it. I imagine most guys on here and in the community are anti-plastic surgery, all "do it yourself change your personality etc." I disagree strongly. Everybody is different, it's a decision you have to make on your own. Getting perspective is a good idea, just know that you're probably going to get the same kinds of answers a lot. Even I didn't think my buddy should have gotten the surgery, but to date (he got it over a year ago), he is glad he did it and feels much better about it.
 

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Get a good surgeon, ask questions, nose job shows if not well done.

If you can get it reimbursed by t government or your private insurance
 
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