I don't mean just in bars and clubs, but even in the daytime. I've approached many women with some success, still I'm the one doing the approaching. What is it about you that causes women to approach you? What kind of mindset do you have? Thanks.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
anyone getting approached by women frequently?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
RSanders219
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I haven't really been approached to the point where she asks for my number, but I have gone into stores or just been at a concert and had girls compliment me on my hair or the clothing I'm wearing.
I remember back in highschool it happened much more frequently lol. Those were the days!
I remember back in highschool it happened much more frequently lol. Those were the days!
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Not all the time, I have girls who stare though. Maybe they are keeping an eye on me since I have that criminal face lmao.
From the top of my head I only been approached by a woman like 6 times. Out of that 6 only 2 from the club.
From the top of my head I only been approached by a woman like 6 times. Out of that 6 only 2 from the club.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
Nope
Fuglydude
Master Don Juan
I used to get approached sometimes back when I was more of an attention ***** during my stripping days. Looks play a definite part if you're the kind of guy who gets approached a lot. I'd rate myself a 6 right now cuz I'm fat and bulking! But when I was stripping and lean I think I'm around an 8. Lots of guys that I worked with would have funny stories about girls approaching them... This is the kind of shape you should be in if you wanna get checked out/approached by women:
http://canadianplayboyz.com/cme3.php
I'm Trey Stylz on that site... I should probably get them to take that pic off as I don't dance anymore!
Here's some pics... The pics w/ the blue tank top in the gym are most recent. Notice how much fatter my face looks now that I'm heavier/fatter/bigger!
http://s102.photobucket.com/albums/m91/Treydesmon/
I like wearing tank tops in the summer as I'm a sweaty bastard and tank tops help me to cool off, plus, its actually kinda hard to find clothes that fit me as I'm only 5'8" w/ a 46" chest and a 32" waist and a fairly wide shoulder girdle. I'm 185 lbs, but will try and hit 210 in the next 8-10 months. Tank tops circumvent the clothing problem by allowing my shoulders to be free.
Tons of people in general stare when I wear tank tops as I'm in reasonably good shape. Hell, I got paid to take my clothes off for 3 and a half years! While many girls will stare, only a few will have the stones to approach. Its obviously different in club/bar situations.
I'm old and fat now, and dislike the attention that I used to crave during my younger days. I'll actually avoid wearing tank tops out because it makes me feel self conscious when people stare...
Anyone who's in elite shape will know what I'm talking about.
http://canadianplayboyz.com/cme3.php
I'm Trey Stylz on that site... I should probably get them to take that pic off as I don't dance anymore!
Here's some pics... The pics w/ the blue tank top in the gym are most recent. Notice how much fatter my face looks now that I'm heavier/fatter/bigger!
http://s102.photobucket.com/albums/m91/Treydesmon/
I like wearing tank tops in the summer as I'm a sweaty bastard and tank tops help me to cool off, plus, its actually kinda hard to find clothes that fit me as I'm only 5'8" w/ a 46" chest and a 32" waist and a fairly wide shoulder girdle. I'm 185 lbs, but will try and hit 210 in the next 8-10 months. Tank tops circumvent the clothing problem by allowing my shoulders to be free.
Tons of people in general stare when I wear tank tops as I'm in reasonably good shape. Hell, I got paid to take my clothes off for 3 and a half years! While many girls will stare, only a few will have the stones to approach. Its obviously different in club/bar situations.
I'm old and fat now, and dislike the attention that I used to crave during my younger days. I'll actually avoid wearing tank tops out because it makes me feel self conscious when people stare...
Anyone who's in elite shape will know what I'm talking about.
i have rarely gotten approached during the day by women but it has happened. If you're talking straight out asking me out never, but girls have started conversations with me trying to lead me to talking to them more. I've had a few black girls be direct and just tell me how cute i was. But i have been approached in clubs a few times by asian chicks.
I have a lot of girls approach me after they get to know me and when i'm in shape they always compliment my body. I was told i could be like Fugly haha (stripper). Fug did i tell you i've host male revue night at my venue MULTIPLE times hahaha. I know all about your shows and flipping the girls, doing back flips, hand springs, shoving your face in their crotches, etc. I've seen some great male entertainers that just work the entire crowd as opposed to a female who just milks one person generally.
At my best i'd consider myself a 7.5-8 on looks and if i dress well and act well maybe even a bit higher.
clothes and persona definitely can add multiple points onto your attractiveness. If i dress like i college kid i look super young so people just ignore me thinking i'm a kid but if i put on a suit or dress clothes and act more mature, chicks fawn over it.
I have a lot of girls approach me after they get to know me and when i'm in shape they always compliment my body. I was told i could be like Fugly haha (stripper). Fug did i tell you i've host male revue night at my venue MULTIPLE times hahaha. I know all about your shows and flipping the girls, doing back flips, hand springs, shoving your face in their crotches, etc. I've seen some great male entertainers that just work the entire crowd as opposed to a female who just milks one person generally.
At my best i'd consider myself a 7.5-8 on looks and if i dress well and act well maybe even a bit higher.
clothes and persona definitely can add multiple points onto your attractiveness. If i dress like i college kid i look super young so people just ignore me thinking i'm a kid but if i put on a suit or dress clothes and act more mature, chicks fawn over it.
Fuglydude
Master Don Juan
Haha! Awesome!!! You should have totally been a stripper! Best "job" you can have when you're young. I'll never ever have a job where I have that much fun, make that much cash, w/ that little stress ever again in my lifetime.AAAgent said:
Ya man, its all about making sure everyone has fun! I loved to motorboat chics w/ huge tits! Its like, phuck, I can't believe I'm getting paid for this! I've never done a backflip, as I've seen several guys get hurt pretty bad, However, I did do handstands, walking on my hands and the occasional handspring.
Some guys would use fire stuff too... I only stuck to a candle/hot wax type thing... Girls eat that shiit up!! hahah!