vatoloco said:
So now that she has no other options, it's time to contact good ol' sandman007 and use him for free entertainment!
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That's how a LOT of women think these days.
A pretty girl probably has a dozen guys kissing her arse at any given time. Now she's not going to outright dismiss these guys if they're at least attractive/interesting enough to spend time with. After all, what pretty girl would rather sit home and wash her hair than have dinner with/hang out with/get plowed by a hot guy??
Here's where most guys make the mistake...they assume that women today think like women back then thought...that if she says "yes" to a date, she MUST be into you on some level.
Especially since the "sexual revolution", women play the game like men.
Guys have girls that they'll go out with if they have nothing else going on because hanging out with them is better than sitting home playing X-box (just barely) and because they might get some p*ssy out of the deal. I'm messing with a couple right now...if I happen to be sitting home bored, I'll let them come over and we'll f**k, but to be honest, they're "sixes"...if I can think of ANYTHING better to do, I'll blow them off. Sad but true.
Just because she goes out with you, just because she f**ks you, it does NOT mean she is necessarily INTERESTED in you. Girls have priority guys and option-d**ks. If you're an option-d*ck, she'll be happy to go out with you if nothing else is going on. Girls will "date" option-d*ck guys all the time, but women don't look at a "date" as anything serious any more.
Option-d*cks get "bumped" for almost anything, including:
- Time with family
- Time out with her girlfriends
- Time out with a priority-guy
- Time IN with her girlfriends
- Work...or being tired from work
- Spontaneous social events (parties, impromptu get-togethers)
- Someone (anyone) presents her with a novel opportunity
- Something interesting is on TV
If a girl is flaking on you, 4 out of 5 times, it's going to be because you're an option-d*ck and she's found something better to do than spend time with you.
Now there's nothing wrong with being an "option-d*ck" as long as you understand the rules.
1) You understand that she's a "plate" and that she's interchangeable with any of your other "plates".
2) You understand that a flake isn't a personal sleight and you don't take her to task for it...you expect it and when she flakes, you replace her.
3) If it's something socially important, like a family wedding, you don't invite a girl who looks at you as an option-d*ck.
4) If you're in a social situation where you have the opportunity to game more women, option-d*ck girls are better left home.
The core thing to take away from this is something I saw in a girls' sig on a forum once...never make someone your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.
So how can you tell if a girl is genuniely interested in you, as opposed to just "dating" you?
Easy...she makes an HONEST EFFORT to spend time with you. She:
- asks YOU out to events that she wants to go to
- asks you to accompany her to high-profile social events (weddings or holidays, for example)
- introduces you to her friends/family or talks to them about you
- when she DOES flake, she immediately suggests rescheduling, possibly offering dates
- communicates with you outside of "dates" spontaneously, not just in response to your solicitations
- at the very least, drops hints that she wants to spend time with you
If she is always agreeable to spending time with you, but never communicates with you when you DON'T call her and ask her out, chances are she's just not that into you. Doesn't mean she won't be DTF on a Tuesday night when you're bored and wanna hang out, but if you ask her to an "event", probably best if you don't care if she flakes on you.
