"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Anyone ever be the one to flake on a chick the first time?

The411

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Anyone else ever flake on a chick the first time no matter how hot she is as you had something better to do or other plans came up?

(As in the opposite of a chick flaking on you the first time.)

I've done it. Then set up plans for later on.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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pyros

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Yes, I did it once and it resulted in a disaster lol.

There was this chick that really wanted to meet with me but I was seing my ex at the time. First time I agreed to go to grab a drink with her but...the day before I was not feeling like it so I cancelled it telling her I was going on a business trip for a week.

When I 'came back' I texted her and she agreed to go on a date with me but seemed angry. Then I cancelled it again (cause I prefered to bang my ex) and she got super mad via text. A week later I asked her out and she ignored me and blocked me on whatsapp. At that moment I did want to meet with her cause I definetely cut ties with my ex, but she did not want to anymore lol.

Whatever, I did not like her that much, and I bumped into her a few weeks ago and she's 10 kg heavier now.
 

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pyros said:
Yes, I did it once and it resulted in a disaster lol.

There was this chick that really wanted to meet with me but I was seing my ex at the time. First time I agreed to go to grab a drink with her but...the day before I was not feeling like it so I cancelled it telling her I was going on a business trip for a week.

When I 'came back' I texted her and she agreed to go on a date with me but seemed angry. Then I cancelled it again (cause I prefered to bang my ex) and she got super mad via text. A week later I asked her out and she ignored me and blocked me on whatsapp. At that moment I did want to meet with her cause I definetely cut ties with my ex, but she did not want to anymore lol.

Whatever, I did not like her that much, and I bumped into her a few weeks ago and she's 10 kg heavier now.

I've flaked before the first time. Either you never hear from them again or they understand things come up and they don't take it personal and go with your new plans the next time.

I mean if chicks can flake when something better comes up. So can we. Unless dudes simply arrainge their schedules around chicks just for the chance to get that "golden pvzzy".
 

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Yeah, I regularly flake on girls because sometimes stuff just comes up. Sometimes you gotta work, you forget something or you just don't feel like it on the day. I've used some really lame excuses too. It's no big deal, they usually don't bïtch out about it.
 

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Mr Wright said:
Yeah, I regularly flake on girls because sometimes stuff just comes up. Sometimes you gotta work, you forget something or you just don't feel like it on the day. I've used some really lame excuses too. It's no big deal, they usually don't bïtch out about it.
Of course they don't bytch about it because they already have lots of options. All they have to do is call a beta orbiter.

When we have to cancel, we make damn sure to give a solid counteroffer. Sadly, there have been recent times where I had to work and the girl just stopped returning my calls and texts. Sometimes having a job at an inconvenient time can cause you to lose a girl.

Men take flaking differently, and rightfully so. When a woman flakes on you, you have failed. If she liked you, she would've showed up.
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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When you have a new woman in your sights, it's best to strike while the iron is hot. If you flake on her, the iron gets unplugged and you lose out. I've had many situations where she gives me an available day and I have something better or more important to do. I never hear from her again or get my counter-offers rejected.
 
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