Anyone else struggle with premature ejaculation?

[DanelMadr]

When you get naked tell her:
'Let's race who will *** first...1,2,3 go...' then shout 'Yeah baby I win, you lose.'

or

When she complains just tell her 'Look, you had the same amount of time to ***, so don't complain'.

Seriously, it is all in your head. Do not think about it and don't stress about it. When you think about not cumming...you will trigger guess what? Cumming. And if all Zen fails, just unload a few hours/days before.

 

[EastWind]

I'm struggling with the same issue. Just to let you know you're not alone.

Of course it's all in our heads... one particularly enlightening - and at the same time quite devastating - explanation I've read recently is the one that males who were not the alpha male in the pack needed to be quick about their ejaculation before the alpha male found out what was going on... kind of disappointing, you spend all this time developing alpha traits and then this kind of thing happens.

Anyway.. so far haven't found anything that really helped.

Since about three weeks now I've gone cold turkey on porn AND masturbation. And plan on doing so for the rest of this life. Maybe I'll loosen the masturbation thing slightly when I get back on track. By the way, "no porn" really means "no porn" and "no nudes" and "no sexy girls". Only what's going on in real life is acceptable. What I've noticed is a sense of power coming back to me. Getting on top of something you couldn't control before helps a lot. So far it's had no effect on the whole PE thing, though I've only had one encounter and I'm always nervous during firsts.

Kegel excercises: tried, but never really practiced enough. Never got to the point where I could hold off ejaculation, but I hear that's the ticket.

Point being, I'd rather get to the bottom of the psychological issues and solve that. But so far, no dice...

 

[DanelMadr]

I'm struggling with the same issue. Just to let you know you're not alone.

Of course it's all in our heads... one particularly enlightening - and at the same time quite devastating - explanation I've read recently is the one that males who were not the alpha male in the pack needed to be quick about their ejaculation before the alpha male found out what was going on... kind of disappointing, you spend all this time developing alpha traits and then this kind of thing happens.

Anyway.. so far haven't found anything that really helped.

Since about three weeks now I've gone cold turkey on porn AND masturbation. And plan on doing so for the rest of this life. Maybe I'll loosen the masturbation thing slightly when I get back on track. By the way, "no porn" really means "no porn" and "no nudes" and "no sexy girls". Only what's going on in real life is acceptable. What I've noticed is a sense of power coming back to me. Getting on top of something you couldn't control before helps a lot. So far it's had no effect on the whole PE thing, though I've only had one encounter and I'm always nervous during firsts.

Kegel excercises: tried, but never really practiced enough. Never got to the point where I could hold off ejaculation, but I hear that's the ticket.

Point being, I'd rather get to the bottom of the psychological issues and solve that. But so far, no dice...

Answer for most of psychological problems is.....fear. Alphas are alphas because they can control it. It is a problem with all this Adopt the Alpha Traits mantra...it does not go for the core and it makes you not alpha by fearing to lose the posture.

Lot of people die or not live because they fear to be seen as weak idiots....and so they remain being weak idiots.

You developed a tormentor, saboteur in your head. It is called ego. The inner voice which we developed to protect us...from alphas etc. Once you realize that past and future are unimportant and that mental movies and inner dialogue robs you of experiencing present moment, you become to recover.

Zen is the answer. For it helps you to uncover the core of yourself not tainted by ancient part of brain which usefulness is very limited but it rules over us most of the time. The core of yourself is reasonable, not needing, not fearing various pseudo dangers and very balanced not on collision course with your physical body.