tryst type
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Is it me or does it seem like hotter chicks are way easier to get contact info/dates in real life than on dating sites and or Facebook? What's the deal with that
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
tryst type said:Is it me or does it seem like hotter chicks are way easier to get contact info/dates in real life than on dating sites and or Facebook? What's the deal with that
A man's online dating profile is only as strong as his WORST picture. ~Judge nismo~samspade said:Real life allows for displays of confidence as well as use of seduction skills. In online dating, the jig is up; women know why you're reaching out to them and you can't so easily establish yourself with DHV, indirect game, etc. It's easier to reject a guy simply based on appearance online, but in real life a man's personality and charisma can make up for not being her physical type.
Also remember women love "serendipity" and they'll take a "chance" meeting over the cold, unromantic algorithms of online dating any day.
Two economic phenomenons come to mind:tryst type said:Is it me or does it seem like hotter chicks are way easier to get contact info/dates in real life than on dating sites and or Facebook? What's the deal with that
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
good post.SecondHalf said:90% of the guys using internet dating are going after the same 10% hotties.
There is not such a ratio of men willing to cold contact women in public.
It brings the odds way down for them and they are not riding the internet dating bubble hot women enjoy.
SH
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.