"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Anyone else notice this? Online dating vs real life

tryst type

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Is it me or does it seem like hotter chicks are way easier to get contact info/dates in real life than on dating sites and or Facebook? What's the deal with that
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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90% of the guys using internet dating are going after the same 10% hotties.

There is not such a ratio of men willing to cold contact women in public.
It brings the odds way down for them and they are not riding the internet dating bubble hot women enjoy.

SH
 

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tryst type said:
Is it me or does it seem like hotter chicks are way easier to get contact info/dates in real life than on dating sites and or Facebook? What's the deal with that

from my experiences, online dating doesn't ever do me justice. maybe its because i'm short at 5'7" or my job doesn't pay well.


but in real life, people tend to gravitate towards me, and girls definitely check me out more. I think its my body language, charisma, etc.

Its easier for me to sell myself in real life, and win people over. On the internet, people only take a small glance at me and start ignoring me really quickly
 

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samspade said:
Real life allows for displays of confidence as well as use of seduction skills. In online dating, the jig is up; women know why you're reaching out to them and you can't so easily establish yourself with DHV, indirect game, etc. It's easier to reject a guy simply based on appearance online, but in real life a man's personality and charisma can make up for not being her physical type.

Also remember women love "serendipity" and they'll take a "chance" meeting over the cold, unromantic algorithms of online dating any day.
A man's online dating profile is only as strong as his WORST picture. ~Judge nismo~

Your bulletproof game and charming personality won't make you look any better when your shirt comes off. (Or on, or financially) ~Rollo Tomassi~

Get equipped.
 

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tryst type said:
Is it me or does it seem like hotter chicks are way easier to get contact info/dates in real life than on dating sites and or Facebook? What's the deal with that
Two economic phenomenons come to mind:

1) supply and demand. More guys less girls.

2) Barrier to entry. In the field, a lot less guys will approach. Online, it's a lot easier. This feeds into number 1).
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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online scene distills ones success purely down to looks so guys who don't have it can't really overcome said shortcoming. Those who succeed on some level or another ironically probably don't need online dating, and those who do need online dating don't succeed anyway. That said, most guys would probably benefit from just doing it in real life.
 

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SecondHalf said:
90% of the guys using internet dating are going after the same 10% hotties.

There is not such a ratio of men willing to cold contact women in public.
It brings the odds way down for them and they are not riding the internet dating bubble hot women enjoy.

SH
good post.
 

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Most guys can easily land way hotter girls in real life for a number of reasons:

1. Horrible ratios on online websites which favor women.
2. It doesn't take balls to message a woman on an online dating site....the fact that you risked rejection to talk to a woman in real life is attractive.
3. It's tough to run game when the person can't hear your voice, receive your strong eye contact or feel your kino.
4. A lot of the women on online dating sites are damaged goods...single moms, psychos, daddy issues etc. Most attractive women get hit on constantly and have no need to look online for dates.

That's not to say that you can't meet attractive and well-adjusted women online (I certainly have), but it's far easier to do it in person.
 

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I got dozens of beautiful, smart young third world ladies to email me, without even posting my pic, gave my correct age (58 at the time) simply by offering to bring them to USA and teach them how to gross 100k a year, within 5 years of arrival here. (60 hour week). They didn't, and don't CARE how old I am, what money I make, what I look like. I know a lot, type quickly, am a decent guy, and it SHOWS. I'm single, no kids, am sterile, healthy and a US citizen. That's all that they care about. Yes, I'll probably lose her after she becomes a citizen. If so, there's more just like her.
 

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i went to get a massage today and funny enough we started talking about online dating. she told me she would never use online dating, doesn't have the need to she's pretty hot and the whole thing is creepy.

there is another massause there as well who isn't as how but who isn't ugly and she does use online dating and she was telling us about how this guy was cute who she went out with a few times but how he was too this or too that and my massause saw the guy and said he wasn't bad looking at all just kinda on the short side. and my massuase is a good 2.5 points better looking this this picky ass ***** massause

that'st he problem with online dating. you give power to girls who shouldn't have power. this girl, this girl is seriously more jacked than i am lol and i'm jacked. she works out too mcuh she's too muscular she's not femine and she's got this big ass nose lol and she's *****ing about a guy not being her height (she's like 5'10)

that **** lowers your self esteem getting rejected by girls who are below your pay grade constantly i'm out on that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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tryst type

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Yeah it does sort of seem like online dating can be a huge ego boost for even the not as attractive girls.

I think there's truth in how it gives power to ones not deserving. I can see how just an initial message could instantly be giving a girl the upper hand. Makes me just want to quit any and all social media its all a fallacy that gives the wrong people a sense of worth.
 

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How about we stick to real life: the appearances we fall for and that deceive us (and cause us to deceive ourselves) is enough to deal with, let alone a cyber world of appearances. We are more capable of discerning someone by their presence than by their pictures.
 
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