"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Anyone else like being single?

GameTime76

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 15, 2009
Messages
126
Reaction score
1
Is it just me cause im a young buck or is a girlfriend really worth it? I mean yea go ahead and get some action! But isnt it more fun to just chase and meet random girls and seduce them? Since, im single.. I can hang out with the guys, do what I want in my spare time, or just go out and flirt with random women. Without the pressure of a girlfriend in the back of your mind


What do you guys feel?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Joined
Mar 23, 2007
Messages
148
Reaction score
1
Location
CA
I have the same mind frame, I came to this site , with 2 options , how to get the girl , and how to get multiple girls , turns out in the process of chasing one , I ended up chasing many , and still am even tho I have my hits and misses .

many of my closest friends have GF's and hate it . its prevented them from chasing dreams , because their gf's are always their 2nd opinion , or their stop signs . As for me , I got myself an education , a nice car , and have freedom, as well as extra money in your pocket never hurts .

I enjoy showing up to get small reunions , and friends asking me when is it going to be my turn ? for what , to ask someone for permission to do something I had enough of that with my parents growing up .

I found for me ... chasing relationships wasn't worth my time .
too much emotions , then oneitis kicks in and you have to come back this site for the rest of the members to give you a pep talk ... , jealousy , hate drama.... etc
I would rather mingle and have F-buddies .

get new role models, like mike the situation lmao ... i don't know if jersey shore is written or reality , but the ish that he does inspires me , to see how much I can get away with .


I am no hurry to get hitched either , the best thing I recommend is meet as many women as you can , never settle for less .

I came here when I was 17 made a profile a few years ago and now I am going on 25 . its probably about the best place on earth . for advice .
 

powpow

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 6, 2011
Messages
381
Reaction score
11
Location
Hawaiian Jungles
I have had girlfriends up until only recently.

I must say, I enjoy being single so much more. I feel like an animal on the hunt. At all times.

Tonight, I went out with this one chick (solid 9 I met at the club a few weeks back). She was feeling me. I was able to freely check out other women without being repremanded.

There is a sense of freedom available to you. You hang out with your boys more. You have more free time. You dont have to listen to them complaining about work or other life stuff. Its just fun. Only fun. Food tastes better, colors pop, the world is open for the taking.

There is no restriction. I feel like a Buddhist. I am attatched to nothing. Therefor I have nothing to lose. Therefor my innate desires are ignited.

The only thing I miss about having a girlfriend is the actual connection between two souls in harmony. But as a tradeoff, I can give up on that. Thats why I got my boys bahahahahaha

HOLLER IF YOU HEAR ME
 

MartyMcFly

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 17, 2011
Messages
111
Reaction score
2
Location
St. Louis
Single is the ****, All through high school I was in a relationship, I finally got out of my oneitis and its the best i've felt in years! I can do whatever I feel like doing whenever I feel like doing it.

There's no one to hold me back and no one to judge me. I can show up at 2 am drunk out of my mind and not have someone there to ask "Where were you all night!?" Hell yeah. I'm following my rules.
 

initiatorhater06

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 30, 2010
Messages
193
Reaction score
7
I hate how us guys have to be extremely comfortable and content with ourselves, love our single life in order to appear as boyfriend material, but the same thing does not apply to girls, a girl can be desperate and still easily get a boyfriend. That just shows you that women have higher standards
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Allurre

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 14, 2008
Messages
661
Reaction score
19
Just ask yourself what brings you most happiness and satisfaction.

Give both a try, and only then will you know what most fits your interests.

Life is about gaining experiences, so don't ever impose yourself any limits lest you think it is against your moral values.
 

blackwolf

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 10, 2010
Messages
146
Reaction score
2
initiatorhater06 said:
I hate how us guys have to be extremely comfortable and content with ourselves, love our single life in order to appear as boyfriend material, but the same thing does not apply to girls, a girl can be desperate and still easily get a boyfriend. That just shows you that women have higher standards
yeah i feel the same way man.

i enjoy single life myself. but being a man i get those urges to want a woman. i've had times where i was single for even a few years. i was happy pretty much the whole time. in a way when you're in a relationship you lose a bit of freedom. less freedom and more ups n downs. thats the price to pay for a woman.
 

FairShake

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 8, 2008
Messages
2,405
Reaction score
306
In your 20s your should be single. You miss out on alot if you aren't.

Once you hit your 30s it's a different story. Having someone to wake up next to, cook, clean, take care of you when you're sick, give a **** about your day, etc. is the best thing going.
 

Rubirosa

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 25, 2010
Messages
503
Reaction score
36
No offense, but I don't like the idea of "In your twenties you do this...In your 30's you do this........." This kind of thinking distorts people's perception of themselves.
All the things you mentioned can be enjoyed for periods of time with single women. I do like waking up with certain women SOMETIMES....
I think that the bottom line is that any serious relationship with a female is bound to reach a point where she will probably want to get married, and the guy will be put in a difficult position if he doesn't want that lifelong commitment
 

initiatorhater06

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 30, 2010
Messages
193
Reaction score
7
blackwolf said:
yeah i feel the same way man.

i enjoy single life myself. but being a man i get those urges to want a woman. i've had times where i was single for even a few years. i was happy pretty much the whole time. in a way when you're in a relationship you lose a bit of freedom. less freedom and more ups n downs. thats the price to pay for a woman.
Yeah, basically God, Life, Society, Culture, made being Masculine extremely hard and difficult, but being Feminine very easy
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Top