"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I've noticed this more recently.
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The wife and I had sex last night. Won't get into details but I have to state that to get to my point. You know how sometimes you have maintenance sex and then you have "sex". last night was "sex" lol.


I wake up today and I'm just exhausted. I really didn't want to get up today. I forced myself up and i'm kinda just slugging through the day, my head is in a big fog. This only happens when I go hard at it in the bed. Like, if i just nut one time I'm usually good to go but if i have any type of real sex where we are going at it the next day I'm useless. All I want to do right now is play my ps3 lol.

When I was younger this was not a problem, I could have sex 2-3 times in the morning and still work but now sex in the morning isn't even on the table unless it's a saturday and i have nothing going on that day

is this normal or do I need to check something out?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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pretty normal. I would imagine it has something to do with testosterone levels declining as we age.
 
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Holy sh!t Backbreaker you're only 30!!!

Give it another 10 and you won't even be able to get it up! :crackup:


Seriously though I had a similar conversation recently with a few good buddies. I was telling a story from back in the day about having a double header with this chick. One guy says "these days I'm lucky if I can have sex 2 or 3 times a week".

I made a comment about his girl not putting out for him and his response was that HE wasn't able to have that much sex!

I was blown away as the other guys all agreed that their sex drives have seriously dropped off in the last few years. These guys are late 30's early 40's.

Personally I'm still raring to go just like I was when I was 20. Sex doesn't occupy my mind like it used to but physically there is no change except now I last longer. The wife and I pulled a triple header just the other night.. I don't know why this is? Too many energy drinks maybe. :)
 
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Its due to the brain release of prolactine, not different from an intense wanking session that leaves you exhausted and lazy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Slickster said:
Holy sh!t Backbreaker you're only 30!!!

Give it another 10 and you won't even be able to get it up! :crackup:


Seriously though I had a similar conversation recently with a few good buddies. I was telling a story from back in the day about having a double header with this chick. One guy says "these days I'm lucky if I can have sex 2 or 3 times a week".

I made a comment about his girl not putting out for him and his response was that HE wasn't able to have that much sex!

I was blown away as the other guys all agreed that their sex drives have seriously dropped off in the last few years. These guys are late 30's early 40's.

Personally I'm still raring to go just like I was when I was 20. Sex doesn't occupy my mind like it used to but physically there is no change except now I last longer. The wife and I pulled a triple header just the other night.. I don't know why this is? Too many energy drinks maybe. :)
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it's not the drive. lol the drive is there. i want sexy time. i'm just freaking drained.

i did have a particularly taxing day in the gym earlier it was deadlift day and i got a good work out and i was already kinda drained

but it used to be regardless of what i did the day, it stayed on that day. i could **** 3-4 times a night wake up and be good. now it carries over.
 
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Howiestern said:
pretty normal. I would imagine it has something to do with testosterone levels declining as we age.
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I don't really believe in the correlation between T and sex drive anymore. There have been times my sex drive vanishes and blood work would actually show my T levels to be high. So basically while I do think that high sex drive likely means high T, I no longer think that low sex drive means low T. Only way to know anything about your T is to get tested.
 
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I've got excellent cardio, can bust ass all day at work...get in a hard run afterwards and still be fine next day. With my ex, when we really went at it we were both almost immidiately exhausted or whipped the next day too. I can remember after a few sessions literally feeling as if my heart was going to come out my chest....and I'm telling ya I'm in great shape endurance wise. It's a different animal.
 
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BB, I think you need to re-read the DJ Bible and spin more plates.
 
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disgustipated said:
I can remember after a few sessions literally feeling as if my heart was going to come out my chest....and I'm telling ya I'm in great shape endurance wise. It's a different animal.
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I've had that happen too! It's fvcking scary!

The chick I was with at the time says "are you ok old man?" :crackup:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Slickster said:
I've had that happen too! It's fvcking scary!

The chick I was with at the time says "are you ok old man?" :crackup:
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It's easy for chicks to say that because they rarely do any labor during sex. Plus they are just wired differently regarding orgasms, and having multiples doesn't drain them. It almost energizes them.

I'm 31 and I have started to notice this, although not dramatically. I just notice that after I bust 2-3 nuts in a 24 hour period, I am DONE for like 3 days lol. Girls don't get it either. I'm like listen, it takes fuel and rest and energy to build those reserves back up. It's not so much the exercise part of sex, it's the physiology of orgasm and cumming that takes it out of you.

And your testosterone level isn't the sole arbiter of sex drive. Everyone's pat response is "low T", but it's a much more complex system than just testosterone and a boner.
 
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Howabout you address the fact that you're mismanaging your time and overworking yourself as a possible factor for you feeling like crap?

You never addressed your serious issues in this thread:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=207214

Instead, you're acting as if it never happened, pretending it will go away.

You seriously need help, Backbreaker. Stop trying to ignore it.
 
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never had this problem and never will. :p

regards,
 
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