"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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anyone else get this?

Jizzee

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hey guys, just wanted to ask.

does anyone else have times when they just cant think of anything at all? Like right now im trying to think of something witty to reply to someone. But I literally cant focus on it, slighty behind this thought is a feeling of "what if?" i.e. what if it isnt funny enough? what if it sounds weird? what if next time i see her she think im weird? what if other people think im weird because of it?

is it a self-confidence thing? self-esteem?

I wish I could get out of my head somedays!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You feel it has to be PERFECT .
Since you feel you are not "good enough" you feel that everything you present to the opposite sex HAS to be perfect.

Perfect is boring.


Build your personality. Be confident in yourSELF.
Enjoy your hiobbies. Pursue your interests. Work on your goals. Make your Dreams your Reality.

The women that are truly worth it will eventually appear. But you must be ready.
You need to be and feel an dthink independently.
You need to trust yourself, and walk on your own two feet.


When you are insecure, not confident, feel unworthy, self conscious, overly critical of yourself , and don't have your life in order (job, home, car, bank, hobbies, school) then DO NOT EXPECT some woman to SAVE YOU and make everything ALL RIGHT for YOU.


Realize that you are NOT perfect, you , like me, like the rest of the guys and gals on here, are Works in Progress.

You are a moment in time.


Enjoy your life.

Do the things you want to do.

Do not base your self esteem on some woman's opinion of you.

Do not accept them judging you.
Do not seek their validation of you.
Don't have outcome dependancy. This can only come form beiong comfortable in your own skin, knowing that you are not perfect, but you know yourself, and are an interesting and attractive person DESPITE what any woman demonstrates to you.
Don't be so down on yourself that you feel you have to live up top THEIR expectations of you.
They don't hold your happiness in their hands, bro. They don't.
It's all you.



Have you read The Book of Pook?

If not, do so.
 

moto

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you don't have to be funny and witty every time......also you can't worry about how she will react because you don't know what she's thinking her thoughts about you will keep changing.

Interceptor where is this book of pook?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jizzee said:
hey guys, just wanted to ask.

does anyone else have times when they just cant think of anything at all? Like right now im trying to think of something witty to reply to someone. But I literally cant focus on it, slighty behind this thought is a feeling of "what if?" i.e. what if it isnt funny enough? what if it sounds weird? what if next time i see her she think im weird? what if other people think im weird because of it?

is it a self-confidence thing? self-esteem?

I wish I could get out of my head somedays!

Its an over analyzing thing. It's just like martial arts. If some guy is throwing a punch at your head, you cant sit there and debate, "should I block it, should I dodge it, I wonder how it would look if I side stepped him and poked him in the eye.

You only have time to react. If you cant natuarally react in the right way, your training is not complete, young pad juan, and you must return to your training. :mad:

Monkey Punch@34#@4 Gaot Kick?!!!
 

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Thanks for the advice guys, I think it may also stem from the fact that all my life i've been pretty shy and my mind is always worrying about how I will be perceived (because I have a stammer). It feels like I havent been aware of the outside world and the art of conversation. I'm only starting to really learn now. A lot of my friends have never had this problem and they can tease women, naturally have witty comebacks and know how to create attraction. They always seem to know what to say. But I was thinking about this and the only reason they know the right thing to say is that 1) They have put themselves in that situation before and have learnt what to say and 2) havent let themselves worry about whether it is right or wrong thing to say and 3) Most witty/funny things that people say, they are just reiterating what they have heard at some other point in life.
however, I have found that I am comparing myself to them, which is the wrong thing to do. They are them, and I am me, in time I will have my own style.
 

SickAgain

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Yeah that's the problem with our generation with IMing and texting. The spontaneity has been removed and everyone can take their time thinking of something witty to say. Just give a call sometimes, it throws people off guard and you'll be in control. Oh yea, once you remove self-conscious thought you can become a sharp conversationalist. It has nothing to do with being a natural.
 

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It's called writer's block, respond to it in a couple hours. Also, behind the "what ifs" should be a "so what?", honestly go for another if this doesn't work out.
 

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it's like constant writers block tho, well, when it comes to witty things anyways lol

Some days I think that the internet should be scrapped, or people are given a time-limit to be online every day. People throughout history did well enough to have conversations, our parents did well enough without the internet to meet their future partner. Force us to get out the house, off the net, and into the world, new situations and all that jazz!!

by the way, forgot to mention, i had already read the book of pook, totally enlightening, esspecially the ******** part lol it's just putting it into practice!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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dont think...just DO.. simply put
 
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