"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Anyone beat Sex Addiction?

Are you a Sex Addict?

  • Probably yes

  • I guess i have tendencies..

  • Nah


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Salvation

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- you can feck a million different women, at the end of the day if tou have nothing to show for it doesn't matter
... Wished someone would slap me in the face when I was spending all my time chasing tail. Yes ,I eventually imprinted a couple of crazy Jezebels who're still bothering me to this day. But I'd rather use that time energy and money to become a master at whatever skill I am intrigued by.
This post inspired me for this thread.

I am early 40ies, started as social phobic in youth, nervous to talk to classmates and aunts, getting into pua-material at 15 seeing my female classmates as unreachable supersexy goddesses while i am ugly duckling, first success=gf still only 8 years later at 23, basically my whole life trying to get better socially - to get my pp into more pussies. Laycount around 180.
I am highly functioning, it's not like my work suffers because of sex addiction, i don't watch much porn, i don't do anything that i am ashamed off, perhaps once every 4 months i spend 60eur on a prostitute - it's just that i make ****ing girls a high priority in life.

Whenever i asked myself 'What do i really want in life, what does excite me?' - it always came as clear number one. And other 'goals' were basically just means to that end.

Nothing in the ****ing world feels as exciting to me as being on a Date and have this situation of connection and physicality with this hot woman i am attracted to, and then kissing and sex. By far. Nothing comes close.
I am always newly excited again when i meet some woman and want into her pants, it doesn't get old.

I obviously have rejection trauma, avoidant-anxious attachment style, i get triggered when i get rejected, i built a 'safety net' of ****buddies and 'feel trapped' in monogamy, surely mommy issues and daddy issues, getting high on sexual approval.

I went to 6 psychotherapists in my life, rogers talk therapy, cbt, gestalt therapy, viktor frankl. Did some big programs to feel old emotions, like nervous guy, byron katie, hypnosis. Did a week long seminar 'childhood deconditioning' looking at mum and dad stuff. Did whole sedona method course, emdr, eft, mc2, 'nervous guy' program eliminating beliefs, Julian transformation mastery program going through the past. Also Ajahuasca and low dose mdma.

At this point i think i'll just die with this.

Hm. Bilzerian says that money and ***** are a black hole.. can't never really get enough of it..

Anyone beat Sex Addiction?
Any Thoughts are always interesting for me to read.
The poll is just for fun.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MatureDJ

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Me having a sex addiction problem would be like some starving kid in Ethiopia having a food addiction. :mad: :mad:
 

Salvation

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Ok, i am not sharpest cookie- to be able to recognize addiction we would have to give starving kid more possible food, so he has possibility to unhealthily overconsume. Did i understand correctly that you are saying you don't have enough sex to be able to diagnose possible sex addiction?

I guess the normi case of sex addiction is watching porn + jerking off a lot, or visiting lots of prostitutes. So if you don't do that..

I am ok to have sex only 3x a week, so Therapist said my possible sex addiction is not very strong, on the other hand i form my whole life towards getting laid.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I quit porn and masturbation many years ago. I think that not watching porn and not masturbating ever has been good for my seduction game and my overall energy.

Getting laid semi regularly does help me stay away from porn and masturbation.
 

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I quit porn and masturbation many years ago. I think that not watching porn and not masturbating ever has been good for my seduction game and my overall energy.

Getting laid semi regularly does help me stay away from porn and masturbation.
Anti-porn and anti-masturbation is what Gen-Z’s hope to find the solutions in. Soft.

Maturbate all you want; don’t let that feeling of comfort think is replaceable. It isn’t.
@SW15 you seem more like a theorist more than a doer :p
 

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No different than any other type of addict, junkies, chain smokers, gaming addicts, etc. Physical pleasure owns you. You are a slave.

I rank sex somewhere in the top 10 pleasures in my life (incl. both material and non-material). When you realize you don't even have to work that hard to get it, the good feeling diminishes a bit.
 

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I quit porn and masturbation many years ago. I think that not watching porn and not masturbating ever has been good for my seduction game and my overall energy.

Getting laid semi regularly does help me stay away from porn and masturbation.
There is something to be said that being all torqued up without sexual release makes a man more interested in trying to pickup a chick. That said, in this situation, a man could find himself porking a whale or a mental-development-challenged chick. :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:
 
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Anti-porn and anti-masturbation is what Gen-Z’s hope to find the solutions in. Soft.

Maturbate all you want; don’t let that feeling of comfort think is replaceable. It isn’t.
@SW15 you seem more like a theorist more than a doer :p
grown man shouldn't even have time to masturbate regularly, let alone watch porn. It's like if a boomer said "gen z should smoke all they want, stop trying to find solutions for a healthy life in non-smoking".

Pathethic addiction.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hi Salvation,
"Did Anyone Beat Sexaholism",I have it on good authority that the Old Style Vatican Choir,called the Castrati had an infallible method!...Great for the vocal chords too LOL.
 
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