"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Anybody else?

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this is kind of hard to explain but i'm gonna try to explain it in the shortest way possible.

for this example there will be girl A and Girl B

Has anybody liked girl A and B, but liked girl A more but knew that girl B liked you a lot and you liked her. But since you like girl A more it seems that whenever you talk to girl B in your mind its kinda unfair because your not giving girl B a 100% chance because at the end of a phone conversation or date. you really just want girl A to be there.

But you also want girl B to stay with you because its not like you don't like girl B you just happen to like girl A more.

Anybody else have this problem? because i just got off the phone with girl B and i wished her a happy holiday and all that good shyt but i wished i could have talked to girl A tonight as opposed to girl B. :confused:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I guess...

In my mind, Girl A (who you like more) stands out because you're more attracted to her than Girl B (who you still like and she likes you).

It's like a battle of standards. Obviously, the girl you are most attracted to is the one you want to be with - but maybe she doesn't feel the same way. Girl B, on the other hand, you're fairly attracted to and she's attracted to you. What's the answer?

Personally, if Girl A isn't equally attracted to you as you are to her, I'd go with Girl B. It only makes sense, unless you're the type of person who thinks going with Girl B mean's "settling for less."

Conclusion: If Girl A doesn't like you like you like her, go with Girl B.

Just my opinion. Take it or leave it.
 

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Originally posted by CableLight
I guess...

In my mind, Girl A (who you like more) stands out because you're more attracted to her than Girl B (who you still like and she likes you).

It's like a battle of standards. Obviously, the girl you are most attracted to is the one you want to be with - but maybe she doesn't feel the same way. Girl B, on the other hand, you're fairly attracted to and she's attracted to you. What's the answer?

Personally, if Girl A isn't equally attracted to you as you are to her, I'd go with Girl B. It only makes sense, unless you're the type of person who thinks going with Girl B mean's "settling for less."

Conclusion: If Girl A doesn't like you like you like her, go with Girl B.

Just my opinion. Take it or leave it.
you saw the underlying reason behind the post and that is the fact that girl B likes me more than girl A who i like more than she likes me

and about the attractiveness of each girl i actually think girl B is more attractive than girl A.. however i'm more attracted to girl A because she has traits that make her more appealing, also i've spent more time with girl A so maybe that has something to do with it
 

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Have a 3some.
 

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Why not go for both of them? Get girl "B" 1st... then go for girl "A" and STAY with her:rolleyes: ... That way u win both ways.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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yeah and you give girl b a chance. And if you spend more time with her, you may like her better
 

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Originally posted by aequitas
Why not go for both of them? Get girl "B" 1st... then go for girl "A" and STAY with her:rolleyes: ... That way u win both ways.
i want to, but i've run into a problem where i like girl A more than she likes me. So i feel like i only get half of what i put in.

granted with time feelings always equalize but still..
 

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i think that with girl b( who already likes you) you should play the
ANTICIPATION game, get her to like you more, ya know

with girl A( who isnt that intrested in you but is a bit) you should play the attraction game, so she digs you more, yeah??

i mean you could do this even when they're together, and play the JEALOUSY game with them both..:p
 

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not giving her 100% attention????? that good! thats what you want!. by going with both you will increase your chances since you have a LIFE. Both will like you more cause they will know they have to work for you and they will work harder and will like you more. You dont come off as afc or desperate. I would not be surprised of Girl A would like you less and Girl B would like you even more if you gave most of your attnetion to girl a.
 

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i dunno about the jelousy game. I would not want that since the evil sides of the woman might start to show.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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both of these girls love to play games though, just that girl A plays more since she's intrested in me but not as much as say girl B

but i know with time as long as i play it the way i have been, girl A will come around all depends on where i am when that happens if i want to persue girl A.
 

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go with girl B. sounds like you only want girl A, cause you want what you cant have. but im sure youll regret not being with girl B, if she starts loosing interest in you.
 
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Exhaust All of your possibilities with girl "A" first (bluntly ask her out right away) then if outright rejected go after girl "B" - only then will you long for girl "B" without any regrets!!!!
 

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Well I must know... what about Girl C, Girl D, Girl E, and Girl F?

Won't SOMEBODY think of them for a change?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Well I must know... what about Girl C, Girl D, Girl E, and Girl F?

Won't SOMEBODY think of them for a change?
the concept of talking to to many girls bogs me down, because then that's more games i gotta put up with the most i can handel at any one time is 3 :eek:

unless you share with me a way to handel more than that, with ease and no headache. Because when the PMS'ing starts the last thing i need is for 5 or more girls to be crying on my shoulder.

god only gave me 2 of them, and i don't think he intended them for crying use.
 

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An idea...

christz: If Girl "A" is not AS interested in you like Girl "B" is, then why not CREATE interest? There are millions of ways that u can do this. I would explain further if i was not on my out, but just know this... If Girl "A" has ANY interest in you to start off with, you can MAKE that "little" interest in you GROW to ALOT of interest in you.

I'll give you one example quicly... Find out what kind of resteraun girl "A" likes, and then take her to a resteraunt similar to the kind that she likes, then just use your charm and knowlege to get her to "fall" for you. ( DO NOT over spoil her or make it obvious that u are "trying" to impress her) Just show her a good time, a time that she will want to have again;)

Something that has worked for me in the past.... phone her and tell her to be ready in an hour, and she she has nothing else planned she will ask you "why" etc... dont tell her, just tell her that she must be ready at her house in 1 hour or so... if she has nothing else planned she will probably say yes (especially if she is already interested in you "abit") Then when u pick her up take her somewhere thst u KNOW that she will have a good time at and will enjoy and will want to do again....

So overall u are making her enjoy your company and enjoy YOU! And wheather she wants to or not, she will phsycologically WANT to do it more, and soon enough she will be yours... So if you really want this chick, then all u have to do is put a little extra work into her, and she is yours;)

Goodluck.
 

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Re: An idea...

Originally posted by aequitas
christz: If Girl "A" is not AS interested in you like Girl "B" is, then why not CREATE interest? There are millions of ways that u can do this. I would explain further if i was not on my out, but just know this... If Girl "A" has ANY interest in you to start off with, you can MAKE that "little" interest in you GROW to ALOT of interest in you.

I'll give you one example quicly... Find out what kind of resteraun girl "A" likes, and then take her to a resteraunt similar to the kind that she likes, then just use your charm and knowlege to get her to "fall" for you. ( DO NOT over spoil her or make it obvious that u are "trying" to impress her) Just show her a good time, a time that she will want to have again;)

Something that has worked for me in the past.... phone her and tell her to be ready in an hour, and she she has nothing else planned she will ask you "why" etc... dont tell her, just tell her that she must be ready at her house in 1 hour or so... if she has nothing else planned she will probably say yes (especially if she is already interested in you "abit") Then when u pick her up take her somewhere thst u KNOW that she will have a good time at and will enjoy and will want to do again....

So overall u are making her enjoy your company and enjoy YOU! And wheather she wants to or not, she will phsycologically WANT to do it more, and soon enough she will be yours... So if you really want this chick, then all u have to do is put a little extra work into her, and she is yours;)

Goodluck.
that's a good idea, never tried it like that, we go out but only occasionaly although anytime we do go out, we have a great time together.

although i'm looking for other ways to raise her intrest, i think i'm doing a good job at it, however i know i could go about this at a faster pace i'm just clueless as to what I can do to do that..

maybe i will take up your idea
 
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