Do you live somewhere where cold approach isn't common?
I'm in the UK and it's amazing how infrequently people cold approach. In teh day time (outside of central London where PUA coaches hangout) it IS like a national event. It's literally so so SO rare. Basically unheard of. No girl/woman I know has basically EVER been cold approached in the day (closest would be a 'wolf whistle' from a builder up a ladder 30 feet away when they were on their way to school or something! lol)
Here, Even in BARS that are 'social' places where you'd expect to see it a lot, it happens quite infrequently. On nights out I sometimes feel like i'm just about the only person trying their luck and approaching random hot girls. Everyone else is GLUED to their social circles, and pretty girls will set talking to their friends the whole night without getting hit on if i'm not there! lol (only exception might be in a club. On the actual dancefloor is where guys suddenly find their balls here and try to grind up on a girl if she dances near him)
And so even to me, when I see someone else cold approach, it definitely does stand out a bit
It's pretty rare everywhere. In doing at least a few hundred approaches by now in one of the biggest cities in the U.S., I've NEVER come across someone doing the same.
I've only ever seen it happen once in Gainesville, FL and the interaction lasted less than a minute. He complimented her, she said thanks I have a boyfriend, and he ejected
So yeah, even in Chicago, it's insanely rare. Never seen it happen outside of bars/clubs and even then, they always need alcohol and/or a wingman as a crutch.
The way you describe everyone being glued to their social circles is exactly what goes on here too.
Even then, it's just pathetic. I've seen guys hold their girlfriends closer after I approached someone totally different. The other day a hostess was standing outside, I approached normally and a table stopped eating and just fvcking stared like a group of retarded fish, so it ends up putting more pressure on her.
Another time, I approached a girl at a bus stop, and a group of girls walked by and started whispering amoungst each other and laughing.
Often times it can just be a glance, but often times people don't mind their own business and feel the need to stare like we're animals at the zoo.
What people do not understand is that there is fundamentally no difference from me approaching at the bar, the street, etc. I'm still just a guy going up to a girl I like, in a different venue. THAT'S IT. I'm still a stranger in the bar. I'm still a stranger on Tinder. I'm still a stranger in the store, the beach, the street, etc.
So why do people act like approaching on the street is taboo? Just because it's not done often?Herd mentality
