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Any ways to deal with competition?

rockman

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Well a few nights ago my friends and I all decided to go out to the mall to walk around, get something to eat, and hopefully pick up some girls. Theres three of us, but the thing is that one of my friends there is much better looking and smoother with girls than me and my other friend. Unfortunately, we didnt have the balls to go up to any girls, but a few different groups of girls came up to us trying to start up a conversation.

Thing is, it just seems like all they were focusing on was my friend who was better looking than the rest of us. Girls only wanted his number and only wanted to talk to him. Any ways to avoid getting sort of....ignored from these girls and/or beat the competition? It seems like all they care about is just who looks the "hottest"...
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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rockman said:
Well a few nights ago my friends and I all decided to go out to the mall to walk around, get something to eat, and hopefully pick up some girls. Theres three of us, but the thing is that one of my friends there is much better looking and smoother with girls than me and my other friend. Unfortunately, we didnt have the balls to go up to any girls, but a few different groups of girls came up to us trying to start up a conversation.

Thing is, it just seems like all they were focusing on was my friend who was better looking than the rest of us. Girls only wanted his number and only wanted to talk to him. Any ways to avoid getting sort of....ignored from these girls and/or beat the competition? It seems like all they care about is just who looks the "hottest"...
first looks dont matter that much

second they probably noticed you were nervous

third go out alone instead of competing with others

sarge on..
 

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L Duke said:
first looks dont matter that much

second they probably noticed you were nervous

third go out alone instead of competing with others

sarge on..
Look is important what are you talkin ?
If girls approach you is for your look for sure .

But if you have tight game you can get any girl .

Rockman if they come and approach your friend is ok . Start talking to them , demonstrating higher value , neg-in them and making fun of them in C&F way . Show more confidence than your friend .

Same way that you would approach a girl and start talking to her and start building attraction , use the same way on those girls .
 
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So many DJ's having problems with competion, haha!
I just replied to a thread a few seconds ago in regards to the same problem. Check out my post. It may not have been directed exactly towards you, but I feel you can pull out some vital points from it.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=141164

Hope I helped,
Axcell.
 

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L Duke said:
first looks dont matter that much

second they probably noticed you were nervous

third go out alone instead of competing with others

sarge on..
You can deny it all you want but LOOKS DO MATTER alot. I have a friend whose really good looking and whenever I'm around him girls will approach tell him hes hot and be all over him. Get there attention and stand out and with strong game you can get the girl over him.
 

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Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Eklipse said:
You can deny it all you want but LOOKS DO MATTER alot. I have a friend whose really good looking and whenever I'm around him girls will approach tell him hes hot and be all over him. Get there attention and stand out and with strong game you can get the girl over him.
See thats exactly my problem. Whenever im out with this one friend all the girls flock to him! Now, im put in a situation wheres its even harder to attract attention and get them to notice me.
 
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