Hi. I screwed up a night in New Orleans for new years eve with my girlfriend of 13 months. She said that I shot down her ideas about the trip. I did, not on purpose, and I just assumed we would spend it together else where. Of course she did not think that and she invited one of her girlfriends to go. Now she doesn't want me there because she says her friend will feel like a third wheel. Is there anyway to fix this so she will want me to go? I could use some help with this.
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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Any way to fix this?
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Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Get a friend for her friend and cross your fingers.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
And how do you think his girl is going to feel about that when her friend tells her?Friend_ofa_Friend said:talk to her friend about it
im sure if she realised that she is preventing a couple from being together on that special night then she would back down
it all sounds a bit weird though! talk to her friend!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Who cares about the friend. The concern should be with what the girlfriend will think once she finds out that he went behind her back to tell her friend that she should turn down her invitation. The girlfriend already feels that he shot down her idea and didn't want to go in the first place, then he goes and tells the person she invited to take his place that she shouldn't go??. Do you believe that his girlfriend would go along with this without getting more pissed off?Friend_ofa_Friend said:I think the friend will totally understand
The friend will then present his girl with the same argument, that a couple should be able to spend the evening together, the girl will come to her senses and agree
After 13 months it should be an unwritten rule that the couple comes first, you people must live in a very strange place. The boyfriend in this case would be right to be confused and angry at this!
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I talked to my girl a little while ago. She said I was being dramatic about trying to go with her. She has been making me frustrated like this for a while and I am tired of her antics. That's a whole other story. She said she was just going home for new years.
Maybe you should take your girl somewhere else for New Year's... I mean just scrub her whole plans and take her somewhere you wanted to go, it would show your dominant and you will be with her so problem solved? Good luck.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
This could work if she still wants to get together. It sounds as if there are some unmentioned things going on in the background that may be the real issue and this New Years thing is just a symptom of something bigger.j0n024 said:Maybe you should take your girl somewhere else for New Year's... I mean just scrub her whole plans and take her somewhere you wanted to go, it would show your dominant and you will be with her so problem solved? Good luck.
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lol don't you hate when that happens. She might go out there and get fu cked lol cuz they are going to be clubbin and she might run into a guy like MEHOW, who could game your girl in front of you, and wont have a problem doing it behind your back. Its not that your girl is untrustworthy its that they have no control over there attraction swiches, if a guy knows how to hit these right he will get her wet :nervous: regardless. So yeah do yourself a faviour and don't let her go...