Sneevox
Senior Don Juan
SirFratserlot said:I'm already muscular. People often mistake me for a football player and I go to a sec school too.
That's not the point, though. Just keep going. Physically exhausting yourself makes you less horny.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
SirFratserlot said:I'm already muscular. People often mistake me for a football player and I go to a sec school too.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You must be doing something wrong.SirFratserlot said:girls aren't attracted to me
foreverAFC said:also if you are someone who is always sitting behind a desk, you could carve a hole into your desk drawer and then line the hole with silicone gel, that way you could just fck your desk right there in front of your computer whenever you want
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I can't fix my skin tone or my personality broSneevox said:You must be doing something wrong.
Seriously... maybe stop "fixing" and start improving. That's helping me.
Oh, I would love to be with a woman, but I can not. American society has pretty much castrated the average black guy that does not follow the stereotype.Justin Time said:So let me get this "straight"
You need help w/ sexual frustration
You lack the motivation to get it from a woman
You don't wanna beat it...
..dude that leaves men and beasts..what are you trying to say? Come out with it already.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SirFratserlot said:I can't fix my skin tone or my personality bro
Dude, fvck it. Seriously, get super good at fashion. Be incredibly fashion forward and call it "swag" and women will be all over you. They don't know the difference.SirFratserlot said:Oh, I would love to be with a woman, but I can not. American society has pretty much castrated the average black guy that does not follow the stereotype.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Well no ****, u think magically turning 30 is going to make me a girl master. No it is experience is what matters and it is impossible for me due to my skin color. Also, youre a product of your environment. In addition, dont tell me im not comfortable in my own skin when this whole site is trying to teach you to act like somebody you arent.foreverAFC said:OP's problem is insecurity and inability to be comfortable with himself, there is no quick fix, it takes a lot of time for some people to calm down and chill out enough to be truly comfortable in their own skin, im about to turn 30 and only now am i beginning to feel this, OP is nowhere near the right frame of mind to have regular relationships with women
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.