"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Any tips for introverts?

zekko

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3. Do something that you're talented in and develop it into a strength. I think it's better if it's challenging (has the potential for failure and embarrassment) and involves real people. But can be mostly done alone and preferably in our safe and secure place. For example, I have an online business and work from home. I mostly work with people virtually but I still have to meet actual people.
I agree with your post, and that's how I define being an introvert. It's all about your energy. Introverts need time to themselves to recharge their energy. Being around people drains their energy.

Like you say above, if you can do something that mixes solitude with socializing, that's perfect for introverts. Resilient talked about playing guitar. So if you play in a band, you get to interact with people. But you also get to use your alone time for prep work, like learning songs and practicing your instrument. Perfect activity for an introvert.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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