Any tip for how to deal with sadness after break up?

[Blacksheep]

Based on interacting with you in the past and your previous posts, I have to say I am surprised to hear you like this.

You are trying to escape the inevitable. You are not allowing yourself to grow from this experience. You need the pain. You don't deal with it, and worse by engaging in meaningless vices like video games, you embrace it and allow it to show you a new version of yourself.

You are effectively choosing to only view the negatives. That is a path you do not want to go down.

Be patient. Be kind to yourself. Be wise about how you view this experience.

PS: In my experience, when this has happened to me, being coupled up inside made it worse. Spend time outside (hikes, walks, road trips, travel, sports, etc, etc). In other words, be active.


Modern Man Advice

Thats true man! I didnt expect myself to feel that way, but when the subject is relationship I still need to improve a lot as I see.

The good is that, I was very sad yesterday but today I could put my mood up and things are getting more clear. I just embrace that this takes times and its ok to feel sad for a while... But I have to move on.

And also, I was the one paying everything on weekends because she didnt had a job yet. I was giving her love, attention and time. And she gave me what? She told bullsh1t about me on my back to her family like a gossiper and to her gay friend. Didnt commit to what we had agree on our relationship.

I should not be feeling sad for breaking up.

And btw, thanks for your support man! Really apreciate it.

 

[Mike32ct]

And it's normal to be "up and down" for a little while. There may be some good days and not so good days. That's ok.

But the longer term trend will be up.

You were absolutely fine before you knew her/met her/dated her. You can and will get back to that space again.

 

[EyeBRollin]

fvck therapy. It’s all bluepill nonsense. They medicalise normal human emotions like sadness (depression) and happiness (mania). You are only “normal” in therapy land when you’re an SSRI pill zombie.

No. That is not even close to what therapy is.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Yes. That’s exactly what therapy is.

Nah. Most of the members here need therapy.

 

[EyeBRollin]

yeah but from guys like us, not some SSRI-peddling “the-rapist” with a degree in Woke

Dude. Science can’t even decide what human gender is. If you’re not starting to seriously doubt the Medical Orthodoxy by now, then we ain’t seeing the same weirdness.

The incredibly dangerous thing about therapy now is that science has become political. That’s why couple’s therapy doesn’t work. The advice you will get in couple’s therapy is “simp more. You aren’t simping hard enough. And here, have another pill.”

This is complete bullshvt. You are so ignorant on this topic it is incredible. Therapy is not synonymous with pills.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Therapists can't prescribe drugs in the US.

Correct. And the type of therapy I’m referring to is cognitive behavioral, which has nothing to do with medicine.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Everybody knows that a therapy session will quite commonly lead to an SSRI prescription.

The amount of women on SSRIs now is an absolute crime against humanity. Pure evil.

Medicinal intervention requires a script from an M.D.

 

[eli77]

group theraphy man it works one on one chat.online or off works wonders.