"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm training pretty hard right now for an upcoming swim meet (around 18 weeks away). Focusing on the 100 yd. freestyle/100 fly. Right now I'm following a schedule like this :

Mondays/Thursdays
AM : Yoga
After work : Swim + Medicine ball circuit

Tuesdays
AM : Yoga
After work : Swim

Wednesdays
AM : Yoga
After work : Swim

Fridays
AM : Yoga
After work : Swim

Saturdays
AM : Lift than swim

Sundays
OFF

I swim about 15k-20k a week right now and plan on keeping it around there until taper time. My question is concerning lifting weights. I would like to have 2 days of lifting (Tuesday and Saturday for instance) but I don't want to compromise my flexibility in the water.

Can anyone recommend a decent lifting program that takes around 45m-60m to complete and won't completely destroy me in the water?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Former all american here and i used to do the 100/200 fly. I've never really lifted while swimming but i would suggest squatting for bigger legs, lat pull downs/pullups, flys& bench for chest.

Not sure your level of competitiveness but even if you do regularly lifting that targets those muscles hard you should see drastic improvements. We used to train 30-40k a week. sucked.
 
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Wow, all american, nice!

My ultimate goal is to swim the 100 yard FS in under 1m. I picked up swimming after high school and find a few competitions a year to go to, it's great motivation to train for something.

Right now I'm only lifting once a week but plan on lifting twice a week, following a modified Starting Strength formula. Something like this

Tuesdays
Squats 3x5
Lat Pull-down 3x8
Dead-lift 1x5
Seated Rows 3x8
Push-ups/Abs

Saturdays
Squats 3x5
Overhead Press 3x5
1 Arm Rows 3x8
Pull-ups 3xF
Push-ups/Abs

These workouts are usually 50-55 minutes long and seem to keep my shoulders strong and healthy when swimming.

I can't imagine swimming 40k a week, I'm hungry almost all day doing 20k + dry-lands. You must've eaten like a horse.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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