Any posters on this site married?

[Alex DeLarge]

Just curious here. I was wondering if anyone who currently or has posted on these forums is married. Anyone?

 

[Desdinova]

I was. Not any more :kick:

 

[women haze]

I do not think you are going to be successful at finding many married men on this site Alex.....

This is a Don Juan forum where boning multiple women is the key...
Don't get me wrong I like it here, but for guys looking for more what exactly is here for them?

I believe we should have a LTR - Marriage forum for advice on keeping a marriage together, looking for LTR etc

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Yes. 15 years.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I was. Not any more :kick:

Same here. She's a marriage counselor now

 

[5string]

Yes. 3 yrs.

 

[Colossus]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-oys2clwNY&feature=player_embedded


Enjoy.

 

[5string]

I do not think you are going to be successful at finding many married men on this site Alex.....

This is a Don Juan forum where boning multiple women is the key...
Don't get me wrong I like it here, but for guys looking for more what exactly is here for them?

I believe we should have a LTR - Marriage forum for advice on keeping a marriage together, looking for LTR etc

Ummm.....yep

 

[Buddha_Mind]

I myself am most interested in successful LTR techniques...I think this would be a good addition to the forum for certain...

I think most people want a long-term healthy relationship. The problem is, they get down that road and it becomes unhealthy, results in hurt feelings, bitterness, all sorts of lingering pain.

Perhaps its the nature of our society and that attitude it breeds in all of us (male and female). We probably live in a more individualized time and a more selfish time in terms of greed, than lots of periods before us...I have no relation to anyone around me other than my interactions with them fiscally or on a work-basis...what investment does our society cause us to place in one another?

When we rely on one another so little (at least superficially, because deeper, we are all connected) it's no wonder lasting LTRs are so hard to find.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

It's hard to type this BUDDAH, and don't take this as a flame, but after reading you for as long as I have and considering your latests LTR release, the last thing you need is advice on how to maintain an LTR. I realize how contradictory that sounds, but read me out here; the reason you believe you need help within an LTR context is BECAUSE you don't know how to live a single life. It's because you never internalized the PUA side of the Game.

It's a sad truth of our modernity that an overwhelming majority of men are expectantly willing to sell themselves short on ambition and limit themselves from experiences that would otherwise help them to mature into the self-respecting Men that women need for a healthy LTR. All due to the carefully conditioned fact that they're fearful of living independently, fearful of rejections, and loathe the visualization of a life that doesn't include monogamy.

These are the guys that hurry through the uncomfortable stages of attraction and seduction in the hopes that some new normalcy of monogamous comfort can take place and THEN sexual security will develop.

What you need, especially at 26, isn't a how-to guide for a healthy LTR. What you need is to embrace both the underlying principles of Game and learn to use the techniques until they become part of your personality. After 15 years of being married I'll tell you this, the principles of Game don't change, only the context does. You'll always fight an uphill battle trying to learn and internalize LTR Game if you haven't done so before you commit to monogamy. The frame you set prior to an LTR will color that relationship until it's over.

Don't make the mistake that PUA, DJ, single life Game is something apart from LTR Game. A lot of guys think it's all some sham and a script, and that women will all 'find you out' once they get to know the real you in an LTR. These are the fears of men who will never come to embody "that guy". There's an abyss of separation from the salesman they see themselves as using PU arts and the Man they need to be. They don't believe they, or anyone else, can fundamentally change, because that's a frightening perspective for them.

They're comfortable in their mediocrity, but not so comfortable that they wouldn't take time to learn simple social skills in order to get to a higher calibre of woman into their lives - but comfortable enough to expect that woman to accept him "as he is" when he's sold her on who he can't or wont hone himself to actually be.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

It's a sad truth of our modernity that an overwhelming majority of men are expectantly willing to sell themselves short on ambition and limit themselves from experiences that would otherwise help them to mature into the self-respecting Men that women need for a healthy LTR.

I agree with this Rollo. Look man -- I am here to LEARN. I know I am not an expert -- I know I have much self-improvement. I am not taking this as a flame because clearly I SUFFER due to my LACK OF UNDERSTANDING. I DID sacrifice a better place, because I was so fvcking in love which was a BS emotion...it's not that I was completely in scarcity...I had a lot of women hit on me...I rejected women defending this ONE who I was head-over-heels for.

Did I not take notice of red flags? YES. Once we were exclusive, did I feel WRONG for flirting with other women. YES. Did I wear rose colored glasses and think I had the ONE and was FEARFUL? YES.

How do I break free? I want to break free Rollo -- I really do. HOW, HOW do I break down my constructs...right now I'm focusing 100% on fiscal and physical strength...but WHAT CAN I DO to overcome this?

I want to be better brother, I do. Guidance is what I seek.

/edit/
One thing I do want you to understand too is that I was a FAT KID for many years before taking full control of my life around age 17. I have muscle, I am in shape, I can fun 5miles rather easily. But I've been alone most of my life my man -- I lived TWO YEARS in the Cascades working around Seattle -- I can be ALONE and have spent the vast majority of my life alone...it's not that I can't be independent and entertain myself...and I've pushed off women who had obvious red flags...pushed off women who were psych0s...and in some ways I wasn't ready for a relationship for a long time...and I suppose I got schmoozed over with lust with this recent one, and she did treat me very well in the beginning. I fell into the relationship after keeping myself distanced...trusted her more...and then eventually, yes, I became ADDICTED I suppose to her, to the relationship..wanted to rearrange things to keep that going...I should have learned man I had to learn the hardway...I'm on the other end of that tunnel and like I said...HOW...HOW do I learn to be the goddamned most confident mother****er I know I'm capable of...after some of the sh!t I've overcome in my life I KNOW I am capable of nearly ANYTHING I resolve towards...I become like a speeding train towards my goal...

But I clearly have some paradigm issues...some unrealistic ways to which I perceive people or relationships, etc...I want to learn. I wouldn't be here otherwise. I want to cause less self-inflicted suffering and take a lighter perspective of relationship and make the game work for me. Serious.

 

[tj]

Yep, for almost nine....nine...loooooooooooooooooooooong years.

And I have a daughter..sometimes she is my angel other times she is rude and a complete pain in the asss.. She gets her ****ty attitude from her mother.

At least I have God to believe in.