"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Any other suggestions, What should my next move be??

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I just met this girl yesterday in a restaurant where she's a waitress, she of course waited on me. I could tell we both were attracted to each other. We're both in our early 20's, shes hot, (more so then the girls I usually ask out) and she was flirting with me practically the whole time. The guy beside me through so too. Although we barely talked, I could tell just by her body language, and by the way she watched me leave, as she talked to the other waitresses and smiled. I had other things on my mind at the time and didn't realize it till I was out the door, I didn't even get her name.

What should my next move be? I'm not the smoothest talker but I really like this girl and she obviously likes me. How long should I wait to return? And what could I say so she knows I'm interested and so I don't come across looking like an idiot.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What happened to the thread you posted yesterday about this?
 

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OK YOU NEED HELP.........she is a HIRED GUN-people who work in retail that get paid to be nice to you. Its how they make their tips. How do u know she is not like this to every guy that walks in. Hot Chics are flirty and get hit on ALL THE TIME.

HERES WHAT YOU DO-go in......ask for her at the counter, then USE THE TIME CONSTRAINT METHOD---"hey I am pressed for time but I wanted to get your email".

Then as she write her email down, TELL her to include her number too...in case your computer crashes.

OPTION 2-ask if she has a cell phone........ask to see it......enter your own cell # hit send, hand her back the phone. Walk out.........then a few minutes later call her.

The key is to NOT hesitate.......dont wonder how, what if, should I.......she is hot and EXPECTS to be hit on......so give her what she expects, then lead her where you want to go. Suggest a plan (ask when her day off is) and then throw the plan away.

HE WHO HESITATES ....MASTUR BATES.

sTOP overthinking this and adapt the NIKE PHILOSOPHY...just do it........but practice in a mirror to work out the nervousness. By all means APEAR like you know what your doing.

IF SHE SAYS SHE IS BUSY---have a contigency plan

IF SHE SAYS SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND-have a prepared answer that re-directs

IF SHE HAS NO CELL PHONE---ask for her email/work #

IF SHE SAYS YES-dont get all excited......just play it cool, like its no big deal.

IF SHE SAYS COME BACK AT 5 IM DONE WORK-say if your lucky I might just do that

APPEAR LIKE YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO IN EACH SITATION.

I was nervous once and i kept thinking whats the best way to proceed and when I walked up all nervous and she handed me her number and said I get off in 5 minutes.....I was not expecting this and did not know how to wing it. So have a plan...where you are going to go if a date presents itself on the fly.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
What happened to the thread you posted yesterday about this?

I have no idea, thats why I reposted this thread. It wouldn't show up on the board unless I searched for a keyword.
 
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