Thanks, buddy, but I'm retired.Originally posted by Eternal
*Tosses you your trident*
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Thanks, buddy, but I'm retired.Originally posted by Eternal
*Tosses you your trident*
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Aww... that's unfortunate.Originally posted by Demon
Thanks, buddy, but I'm retired.![]()
Yeah, I've been reading posts lately... it's rough.Now we've got 10 PUAs maybe and 700 AFCS. We need shock collars.
Oh right...Originally posted by JC Jerkson
Don't forget the guy with the iron fist. :trouble:
JC
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Iron fist? That's it? Eternal can have that one. This is me.Originally posted by JC Jerkson
Don't forget the guy with the iron fist.
"It snowed everyday...Even in June!"Originally posted by syncmaster
LOL we sound like old war vets.... "when i was your age i had to march uphill to school... both ways! In 4 feet of snow!"
LOL
Originally posted by The Antichrist_Star
Aww... that's unfortunate.![]()
Demon... haha, it's actually good to see you back.![]()
I've considered being really 'hardass' but honestly... three forths of all of the posts would probably be gone if that was the case.
****... I've been here so long I actually forgot how I stumbled upon this place... haha
*Shrugs*
Yeah, I've been reading posts lately... it's rough.![]()
AS
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
you would never be a mod here. you're a flaming AFCOriginally posted by JC Jerkson
If only I was mod...
You'd come here and think it was 2001 again.
JC
All right... but if I do it... I mean really, really do it.Originally posted by BrotherAP
Three fourths might be gone, and that would be a great thing. There's no reason to miss something so useless anyway.
Try being a hardass. Do it for the entire month of January. See if anyone wants to go back (other than the exhausted mods who need a day off).
When I was your age, the Christian god was just a minor Mesopotamian diety named "El."Originally posted by syncmaster
LOL we sound like old war vets.... "when i was your age i had to march uphill to school... both ways! In 4 feet of snow!"
LOL
Originally posted by The Antichrist_Star
All right... but if I do it... I mean really, really do it.
I don't want to hear it.
AS
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I talked to JC and I told him that I would do it.Originally posted by syncmaster
Do it pls... go back to the hardfast rule of post something useful, or ask a question that hasn't been asked or STFU.
We need to do some weeding.
"Thumbs up, let's do this. THE VIRTUAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAALLLLLLLLLL MIIIIIIIIIIIIIIND!"Originally posted by The Antichrist_Star
All right... but if I do it... I mean really, really do it.
I don't want to hear it.
AS
All right man... if you're in... I'm in.Originally posted by TheVirtualMind
"Thumbs up, let's do this. THE VIRTUAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAALLLLLLLLLL MIIIIIIIIIIIIIIND!"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.