"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Any of you have a friend that you let all your AFC thoughts out on?

JCKey618

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I know what I need to do to get girls, and I'm getting them fine. But, I still have half the mentality of an AFC, I just don't let it show.

I know I have this one female friend that I'm real cool with and I always tell her about my dilemmas and insecurities and my worries about a relationship, etc. Stuff I would never let the girls I like see, cus, let's face it, it's a turn off. But I feel talking to someone that I have no romantic interest about these things helps me get stuff off my chest and helps me not to say the wrong things to the girls that count.

Anyone else do this?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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AIR-PILOT

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Dude, I have an older sister.....its the best thing ever.
If im ever in doubt, I ask and I get a good answer.
I should start some tips from what she says...haha.
 

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I actually have a few close lady friends that I always talk to about my relationship/dating dillemas and such. I think it helps because it allows me to get stuff off my chest and hear a gal's perspective on things. You can get some awesome advice from close lady friends as long as you remember to not listen to some of the things they suggest.
 

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The only thing I can say is that, women are very helpful especially when it comes to dating and relationship.


Go find someone, then tell her "Excuse me... Can I ask you a question? I know that youare... Probably in a realtionship right now, so... What is it that attracts you in a man?"

Certaily you will get an honest answer. If she says "I don't know" then, you pig the wrong voice tone, and actions to get to know her.
 

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my last girl's best friend is who I talk to all the time, but she's a real #oe and doesn't know much about relationships

my friend's roommate is a fine-a$$ 27-year old who's seen it all and she gives some A-W-E-S-O-M-O advice
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Skullcrusher

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Originally posted by duttylove
be warey getting advice from woman, they tend to tell you what they think you want to hear
True. They're giving advice from their own twisted perspective with a fluffy creamy topping.

Guys advice is usually 50/50 and they're blunt - if he's in a current relationship and his woman treated well by him - getting advice or learning how he treats his woman is even more solid.
 

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Originally posted by wind20mph
The only thing I can say is that, women are very helpful especially when it comes to dating and relationship.


Go find someone, then tell her "Excuse me... Can I ask you a question? I know that youare... Probably in a realtionship right now, so... What is it that attracts you in a man?"

Certaily you will get an honest answer. If she says "I don't know" then, you pig the wrong voice tone, and actions to get to know her.
Wrong wrong wrong.

Women think with their head, then act with their emotions.
 

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Actually having a female friend to spill your afc thoughts and emotions on wouldnt be a bad idea. The advice woudlnt mean ****, but at least they're listening (hopfully). And because of that they'll see you as a wuss, which will help maintain your friendship with the girl.

On the other hand, spilling it onto a guy friend is a bad idea. They will most likely ignore you, and they'll lose respect for you cause you've been pussified.

in reality no one wants to hear someone else's problems. So just learn to deal with it.
 
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