"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Any guys ever get this question from a woman when getting to know her?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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You should try it. You may enjoy it.
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Ur so fkkiing annoyingTictac said:
Thorninmyside
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Of course, if you do love what you do, then that's attractive. But it's not HER priority.
Probably just making conversation.
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It's like if a woman asked you if you like dating. They're asking to prod to see if you're a "winner" or a "loser" in the game.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Also, show stability, if you are happy where you work then you probably aren't looking to move on and that you don't compromise - taking a job you hate just to get by
I'd say most people have aspects about their jobs they like and some they don't. It isn't always an absolute either way.
I like some things about my job and other things I hate. I'm in it for the money, when I'm in a position where I don't need as much I'll probably do something else. Getting paid really good money while doing something you love is by far not the norm, it's why people call it a "dream job."
The more money you make, typically, the more stress you encounter. High-paying jobs call for more specialized skills and there's usually a trade-off with comfort and level of responsibility.