Any good way to come clean about your age?

[dustmuffin]

I went out on a date with a 50 yo latina. She owns 2 apartment complexes. She isn't looking for a provider. I told her I was 47 like my profile on match. Is there a good way to come clean about my age? The date went well ended up at her house. I fingered her and fu cked her tits. She is leaving for CAlifornia on Tuesday. I asked her out on monday before she leaves and no response.

The date was on friday. I left her house about 1:30 and sent her a text about two that I was home. She sent a text saying she had a very good time.

I am afraid that she did a background check and discovered that I lied about my age. That is why she hasn't replied to my text. Good way to recover from this or just ignore and move on?

I did like her and the fact that she isn't a gold digger. Thoughts please.

 

[Tictac]

Go 'fix' your match.com profile.

Then, if you hear from her, tell her the truth.

What does understating your age accomplish anyway?

 

[parkthebus]

I wouldnt lie to begin with. I get why youre doing it and I don't think it's wrong or bad or anything like that. I would avoid lying and decievinf as much as possible because those sort of thought processes will etch their way into your subconscious if you do it too often. As an example; there's nothing wrong with banging a prozzie but you will subconsciously start too think that women only sleep with you for your money and the thought processes that derive from sleeping with them will be negative. If you kept lying about your age all the time, you'd start to thing it's something to be embarrassed about and it will knock your self confidence.

 

[marmel75]

Lol, the only way she could do a background check is if you gave her enough information to do it.

I would never allow a chick to "inquisition" me after one date. Don't agree to that bullish!t.

 

[guru1000]

I am afraid that she did a background check and discovered that I lied about my age. That is why she hasn't replied to my text.

You met this girl once, correct? The deeper question is why, at this point, do you feel the need or have the the fear to come clean with anything to her?

Look at the frame here: Who is she? Who are you? Who should come clean to whom? Perhaps, this frame--although outside your consciousness but well within hers--is the problem as to why she is not responding.

 

[bigneil]

All our lives, anyone who ever looked good for their age lied about their age, and so we all grow up thinking 40 is old. I like to think that I define the age, not that the age defines me. I once dated a girl who lied about her age and I lost all interest once I found out she was 13 years older.

 

[Tictac]

Lol, the only way she could do a background check is if you gave her enough information to do it.

I would never allow a chick to "inquisition" me after one date. Don't agree to that bullish!t.

If I have your mobile number and especially if I have your email address, I can find out things like your age, address and what social networks you are tagged to in less than 5 minutes.

 

[Tictac]

All our lives, anyone who ever looked good for their age lied about their age

Never once. And I know plenty of people that do what I do.

 

[marmel75]

If I have your mobile number and especially if I have your email address, I can find out things like your age, address and what social networks you are tagged to in less than 5 minutes.

I suppose...but that's why you use alternative technologies if you are going to engage in that type of thing.

 

[dustmuffin]

You met this girl once, correct? The deeper question is why, at this point, do you feel the need or have the the fear to come clean with anything to her?

Look at the frame here: Who is she? Who are you? Who should come clean to whom? Perhaps, this frame--although outside your consciousness but well within hers--is the problem as to why she is not responding.

Give me your name and phone number and I can find out loads of information about you. She responded. She was playing games. She asked why I hadnt responded yesterday...thought I wasnt interested....She expects me to text her everyday. Anyway the date set for monday. Just normal buull s hit. I was feeling insecure. I have no reason to feel insecure because if I'm not fu cking her I will be ****ing someone else.I am the prize.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I found out the hard way that lying to a woman about your age is repulsive to women and they see it as the same insecurity that they themselves have. When a man appears to have female insecurities it's game over.

The older I get the more I realize that women will believe about me precisely what I project that I believe about myself. I don't give a flying f about my age, my looks, my anything. If you're comfortable with yourself she will be comfortable with you. If you're comfortable with your age and it's not an issue for you, it won't be an issue for her.

Women take virtually all their social cues from external sources. They will accept your reality and adapt to it. They are malleable and will bend to conform to your own reality.