"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Any good suggestions for starters to liven up conversation?

queenkong

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Random topics starter anyone? Like you wanted to talk to this girl, you knew each other pretty well. But sometimes things just gets quiet suddenly and you need some starters to liven up the conversation again. Any good suggestions?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Talk about random things. Make sure you widen your mind with everything she says. If she starts the conversation, make sure you pick up the key points on whatever she said.

Just make sure you talk to her naturally and not "fake-ish". Just don't think about doing it right, just think about whatever comes to mind on whatever point she said to you. Be natural bro!

Also, you can compliment her and ask her where she got this certain necklace... is it special? etc... Ask about her hair, nails, clothes, make-up anything a girl works hard for to impress YOU.

Make sure to also not do this all on one day. Make sure the conversations short, unless you can't possibly leave her, so you can have more to talk about the day after and so on.
 

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Dimond Lounge : Conversational skills

I wrote a big article on conversation skills, hopefully it'll help. Just remember, a conversation should be able to carry itself. If you've trained yourself properly, you should be able to carry a long conversation, but if you can't, it's always a great fall-back line to give a time constraint when the conversation starts. "I can only talk for a few minutes, then i gotta get back to my friends." Try to make one up. If you even start to feel the conversation die down, try to freeze her out, if she reinitiates, take it as an IOI. Most importantly, let a conversation flow naturally. Ask some open-ended questions to keep the conversation a-movin'!

-Damian
 

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"If you even start to feel the conversation die down, try to freeze her out, if she reinitiates, take it as an IOI"

What does that sentence mean? care to explain further? =X
 
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