Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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any good stories that raise interest?

Romjuan

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I remember reading some pua's that always stressed you demenstrate higher value with a story after youve approached your target. they dont have to be real, just something after youve had your opener then go into a story..

any good ones?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Use stories from your own life. I'm sure you have one or two. If you don't have any, go out and get a life.
 

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The key is to reveal bits of the story in small pieces. Ideally it should be in response to a question. A lot of guys try very hard to brag and they give out a whole bunch of details about themselves and that makes everyone (both girls and guys) lose interest.

For example, she might see a scar and be like "how'd you get that?" A braggart would probably give her a 10 minute long story chock full of exaggerations. The DJ would simply say something like "oh that? It was from playing football back in the day." That would lead her ask more questions. You want to answer in such a way that it leaves her wondering.

It's like those shows that always end at a suspenseful moment. It leaves you pondering what's going to happen next and you'll almost certainly tune in for the next episode. Even the not so exciting stories can be made very interesting if you understate them. When people try too hard to sound impressive, everyone can pick up on it. But if you're modest in your story telling and you leave a sense of mystery, she'll hang on your every word.
 

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Anything that obliquely shows that you are dominant, adventurous, and extremely ambitious. The key, as others have said, is to be oblique.

Ask her about herself. People love to talk about themselves. Then whenever you see her get emotional (in a positive way) about something, search your own memory for a similar story that produces that same feeling. If you can, choose a story that demonstrates the above qualities, but make that secondary. Make the primary intent of the story to share that same good emotion she is feeling.

Example. Say she went whale watching once, and she saw a big whale up close, and it was a great experience.

You want to relate another similar experience, of seeing something really cool in nature up close. So set up the story of you scaling El Capitan, and you saw this bald eagle fly by really close. Only mention the part about you scaling El Cap to set it up, and then focus on how cool and wonderful it was to see such a beautiful animal up close. Act like saying you were at El Cap was the same as buying apples at the grocery story. Don't pause or anything and wait for her to give you props. Just focus on the same emotion as seeing something in beautiful up close, and share the same experience.

Another example.

She asks what you do for a living. You say you are a pencil pusher for your office, but you have always dreamed of being a (insert wicked cool job here). Then talk about how you've always dreamed of being a (cool job) and what things you are doing to make it happen. Talk about all the cool things you'll be able to do when you are a (cool job).
 

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I know what your talking about rom. There use to be some thread here that refered to this topic. I think the point is once you've established rapport you build your value by speaking of stories about being alpha. The point was to not hit on them with your story. Some guy use to talk about a camping trip and how he fought off a bear. It was pretty funny and it showed a lot about him.don't know if this helped you, but I definatly know what you are talkin bout
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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