"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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any good stories that raise interest?

Romjuan

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I remember reading some pua's that always stressed you demenstrate higher value with a story after youve approached your target. they dont have to be real, just something after youve had your opener then go into a story..

any good ones?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Warrior74

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Use stories from your own life. I'm sure you have one or two. If you don't have any, go out and get a life.
 

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The key is to reveal bits of the story in small pieces. Ideally it should be in response to a question. A lot of guys try very hard to brag and they give out a whole bunch of details about themselves and that makes everyone (both girls and guys) lose interest.

For example, she might see a scar and be like "how'd you get that?" A braggart would probably give her a 10 minute long story chock full of exaggerations. The DJ would simply say something like "oh that? It was from playing football back in the day." That would lead her ask more questions. You want to answer in such a way that it leaves her wondering.

It's like those shows that always end at a suspenseful moment. It leaves you pondering what's going to happen next and you'll almost certainly tune in for the next episode. Even the not so exciting stories can be made very interesting if you understate them. When people try too hard to sound impressive, everyone can pick up on it. But if you're modest in your story telling and you leave a sense of mystery, she'll hang on your every word.
 

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Anything that obliquely shows that you are dominant, adventurous, and extremely ambitious. The key, as others have said, is to be oblique.

Ask her about herself. People love to talk about themselves. Then whenever you see her get emotional (in a positive way) about something, search your own memory for a similar story that produces that same feeling. If you can, choose a story that demonstrates the above qualities, but make that secondary. Make the primary intent of the story to share that same good emotion she is feeling.

Example. Say she went whale watching once, and she saw a big whale up close, and it was a great experience.

You want to relate another similar experience, of seeing something really cool in nature up close. So set up the story of you scaling El Capitan, and you saw this bald eagle fly by really close. Only mention the part about you scaling El Cap to set it up, and then focus on how cool and wonderful it was to see such a beautiful animal up close. Act like saying you were at El Cap was the same as buying apples at the grocery story. Don't pause or anything and wait for her to give you props. Just focus on the same emotion as seeing something in beautiful up close, and share the same experience.

Another example.

She asks what you do for a living. You say you are a pencil pusher for your office, but you have always dreamed of being a (insert wicked cool job here). Then talk about how you've always dreamed of being a (cool job) and what things you are doing to make it happen. Talk about all the cool things you'll be able to do when you are a (cool job).
 

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I know what your talking about rom. There use to be some thread here that refered to this topic. I think the point is once you've established rapport you build your value by speaking of stories about being alpha. The point was to not hit on them with your story. Some guy use to talk about a camping trip and how he fought off a bear. It was pretty funny and it showed a lot about him.don't know if this helped you, but I definatly know what you are talkin bout
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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