Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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No Escape

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Hey all,

I went to see a friends band 2 weeks ago. I noticed this hot Russian chick(who had to have been somewhere in her mid 20's) giving me vibes. She checked me out on at least 3 occasions. My buddy even noticed it once and was like "dude, go talk to her". Well, seeing she kept giving me vibes and feeling confident about the whole situation, I approached her and started conversation. I couldn't think of a good conversation starter or opening line, so I just said "were those your friends?", cause she was with a bunch of people prior. She was hardly talking though...she wouldn't talk unless I asked her a question. I'm saying to myself "what the f**k's up with this chick?" And I know I did nothing wrong, made sure I smelt good, no bad breath, etc. After a few times of trying to make conversation and getting nowhere, I was like "f**k this sh*t!"

Any imput? The only thing I can think of that might've ruined it for me was my opening conversation starter. I don't know though, that's why I'm asking. I'm thinking also, maybe all she wanted was an ego boast, just to see if she could "get me"? Thanks.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DJDamage

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Originally posted by No Escape
Hey all,

I went to see a friends band 2 weeks ago. I noticed this hot Russian chick(who had to have been somewhere in her mid 20's) giving me vibes. She checked me out on at least 3 occasions. My buddy even noticed it once and was like "dude, go talk to her". Well, seeing she kept giving me vibes and feeling confident about the whole situation, I approached her and started conversation. I couldn't think of a good conversation starter or opening line, so I just said "were those your friends?", cause she was with a bunch of people prior. She was hardly talking though...she wouldn't talk unless I asked her a question. I'm saying to myself "what the f**k's up with this chick?" And I know I did nothing wrong, made sure I smelt good, no bad breath, etc. After a few times of trying to make conversation and getting nowhere, I was like "f**k this sh*t!"

Any imput? The only thing I can think of that might've ruined it for me was my opening conversation starter. I don't know though, that's why I'm asking. I'm thinking also, maybe all she wanted was an ego boast, just to see if she could "get me"? Thanks.
From my experience Russian Girls are the girls most likely to be attention wh0res and gold diggers but that's just my experience(No hate intended) (alot of them dress in fur, lots of jewlery, with low cut dress that show big cleavage and they always look and ask the guys what they do for living and what do they drive, if you answer correctly and get them all liqured up with Vodka they would probably go home with you that very night)I don't think it was your fault because if she really dug you, she would have asked you questions as well and be more pleasent towards you. Consider yourself lucky that you didn't spend your time chasing her.
 

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There's some ****ed up women out there, this isn't news to us. There's some women out there who's very being is dedicated on leaching and sucking man dry. And not in the good way.

Granted, your opening line wasn't of the highest quality, but you still took the initiative, went over there, and was picking up what she was putting down. I think it actually was a mind game she was playing. You should've just tried to make conversation and if it wasn't happening, then immediately go after one of her friends. Thats ultimately what I do. Women have this territorial attention gene imbedded in their DNA and if they're hot, they have to be the center of attention. When you take YOUR attention away in this particular situation and concentrate it on someone else who may be less attractive and you do it right in front of them, its on. At that point you'll probably see the competitive streak take shape and now she's trying harder than ever to gain your attention back.

Keep ignoring her until the opportune moment and if you played your cards right, you should be walking out with her and on your way back to your place. Its all game, nothing more. If you remove all logic from your way of thinking, you'll be that much closer to understanding a woman's psychi and will have a far easier time with the seduction at hand.

-Dom
 

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Originally posted by No Escape


I couldn't think of a good conversation starter or opening line, so I just said "were those your friends?", cause she was with a bunch of people prior. She was hardly talking though...she wouldn't talk unless I asked her a question.

Any imput? The only thing I can think of that might've ruined it for me was my opening conversation starter.
There are two likely reasons:
a) She is AW,
b) She didn't like you (the opener was ok...it doesnt matter much anyway)

And since Russian culture is more open in terms of opinions, she just clearly showed you that "I am not into you".
It is not that bad as you might think: other chick would chat with you, smile, give you a dud phone number... at least the chick you met didn't suck a lot of you time and attention.

It is better to know her attitude then spend an hour talking to her, get her number, call her, hear "Oh, I am at work, I'll call you back" and never hear from her.
At least this chick didn't lie to you and didn't leech anything.
 

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perhaps her english vocabulary was not that big ?

ok so she didnt talk much, but how was her body language ?

did you try KINO ?

did you try to wet her appetite by at the first talk, just have a couple of lines, then leave her for your friends, then back to her again 20 minutes later on your way to the toilet / bar whatever ( even have a friend of yours go stand on the other side of where you are standing so you can go to him passing her ) "hey its you again, still enjoying yourself ?" 2 minutes with her, then off again

by now she should show some interest in you
cause she will be confused why she cant keep you for a longer period of time

if not ? no dice; NEXT !

/ scordate
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by scordate
perhaps her english vocabulary was not that big ?

ok so she didnt talk much, but how was her body language ?

did you try KINO ?

did you try to wet her appetite by at the first talk, just have a couple of lines, then leave her for your friends, then back to her again 20 minutes later on your way to the toilet / bar whatever ( even have a friend of yours go stand on the other side of where you are standing so you can go to him passing her ) "hey its you again, still enjoying yourself ?" 2 minutes with her, then off again

by now she should show some interest in you
cause she will be confused why she cant keep you for a longer period of time

if not ? no dice; NEXT !



/ scordate
Sorry for responding so late. Her English wasn't actually that bad. She could definitely hold a conversation without a problem. Her body language, well, she wasn't turned towards me while talking, which was further confirmation that she wasn't interested. Not sure what KINO is, I'll look it up in the bible.
 

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Originally posted by No Escape
Sorry for responding so late. Her English wasn't actually that bad. She could definitely hold a conversation without a problem. Her body language, well, she wasn't turned towards me while talking, which was further confirmation that she wasn't interested. Not sure what KINO is, I'll look it up in the bible.
Simply put KINO=touching, usually light.

Well we can conclude she didn't like you sorry to say that. Why didnt she? no one knows except her...maybe your voice? the way you speak? Chemistry? Maybe she wanted to show to sombody she can any guy she wanted...
Just move on. Even if you know the real reason - it will not give you much experience: you cannot really change your voice for example.
 

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perhaps being from another country and visiting here makes things seem odd and intimidating to her and thats why she wasnt so talky talky
 

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The opener

My man, it is true said the right way you can open with anything, but "where are your friends?"
muhahahahah that is nuts man, sounds stalkerish, no offense.

Why not just walk up casually with a smile, not too eager though, and say "Hey", in a very casual way maintaining gentile eye contact. (Maybe a triangular gaze eye to mouth to eye ).

Hell you can even be honest if you feel rock solid confident inside and say "You look really pretty and I just wanted to talk to you"

If she smiles big after this, well boom conitnue.

I don't recommend this tecnique because some low self esteem, damaged women will take this the wrong way. BUT this is something you CAN always do if you cant think of anything to say and it will get you in ALOT of the time.

Regards,

DJ
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