1) Know yourself. I dont mean in some vague way, i mean really sit down and learn yourself. Analyse your life and look at what you do in certain situations. Most people think they know themselves but they dont, they know the side of themselves which they want to know and neglect everything else. So when it comes to a situation where you might get afraid, you get afraid and possibly panic because you dont know what to do about it. In the last year, i have learnt things about myself which really took some time to acknowledge. I learnt how other people can push my buttons and what some of my deepest insecurities are. I know these things now, so when i see a woman trying to manipulate me, i can work around it. In fact i'll share one of my deepest insecurities. Its not being good enough for someone, i get worried that no matter what i do, it might not be good enough, so sometimes i only give 90% because if i give 100% and still fail, then it says something about me and will dent my ego. But i know that now and im working on it.
2) What to do with this information about yourself
Now you know things about yourself, you can confront them and learn to accept them. Some things you will not be able to change because its in your DNA but you can react to things differently and control your emotions. Inner game. For example, even if you're totally crapping yourself about talking to a beautiful woman, you can act like it doesnt phase you and shift those nervous emotions to a different part of your body. But this goes much further than women, so when those guys say "this isnt really about girls at all", they're right! Its about you learning yourself because once you're a grounded guy who's not emotionally all over the place you will start attracting women. Knowing how people can manipulate you can only be an advantage to you, so use it.
3) Give back to others
This is where it starts to be less about you and more about others. Share the value that you get from yourself. No one should be able to influence your opinion about yourself, if someone calls you ugly, you feel like laughing. If someone finds you attractive, its just a sincere compliment. Its no big deal, nothing is. Start being genuine with what you say to people and be non needy about it. Lets say you walk into a room and think a guy's watch is great, tell him but then drop it. In other words, dont hang your words, you're not trying to get anything back, you're just putting value out into the world and not taking any back. Its like photosynthesis, you're a plant, you can draw your own energy from light(or yourself in this case). Whilst everyone else are no good stinking mammals who have to destroy to get their energy(or value)...thats actually the worst analagy ever but i found it funny so i left it in. Basically, bring everyone up around you rather than take them down because inside you're solid enough to hold everyone else up. Thats fricking attractive.
4) Learn the rules of social dynamics
Most guys go the other way around. They learn all the fancy stuff but still feel empty inside because they havent explored themselves. They can get girls but they only get validation from telling other guys online or whatever. I think if you can sleep with a good looking woman and not feel the need to brag about it you're on the right road because then you're doing things for yourself. But thats just my opinion. Now i dont know how much you know about social dynamics but i use a simple rule of thumb, if my mum said i cant do it, you probably can if you carry the right smile. For example this last week i went out with my guys to a club, now i dont get why so many guys go to a club just to shark the place. I just walk in pow, go and say hi to a random girl who i find interesting with a huge smile. No awkwardly trying to ask her opinion over some loud music, just bringing the fun. You dont need some fancy line to overcome a "bytch shield" because you will honestly laugh it off. I say when it comes to "game" i keep it simple, kino, banter, pushpull then comfort. Also im going to add that you can get away with pretty much anything if you believe it. Strongest frame wins etc
5) Be happy
At the end of the day. No matter what you do, if you're not happy seriously stop and consider if its really worth it. Whether its a job, a relationship, a friendship or whatever. You get one life, live everyday to the best you can. You can never be perfect but you can get damn near close.
