"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Any books on parenting from a strong masculine perspective?

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Recommendations on books for parenting from a masculine perspective, no BS theoretical approaches from spineless psychologist types of course. Parenting for the non-castrated male.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Recommendations on books for parenting from a masculine perspective, no BS theoretical approaches from spineless psychologist types of course. Parenting for the non-castrated male.
One of the best books I think you can get them started on is how to win friends and influence people. It'll take your childs reading level up a notch and give them basic social skills to interact with others
 

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Thanks for the recommendation. I am quite familiar with that one although I think it's more suited for business and networking within US context.
 

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Maybe look into Iron John: A Book About Men. The book is not about raising children but it discusses the importance of male mentors, initiation rites, male growth, differences between men and women, etc.
 

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Maybe look into Iron John: A Book About Men. The book is not about raising children but it discusses the importance of male mentors, initiation rites, male growth, differences between men and women, etc.
Love that book. Have read it a couple times and will continue to do so.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just remember your own childhood time and growing up. It will be clear what to do.

You asking for a good book that is targeted for the RP man on how to raise his kids the right way. I have never seen such a book, would be a great topic for someone to create one. Lots of good books for the kids and teens, but for the Dad from a solid how it works. none.. maybe the bible old testament.

For the most part such a man must go against the current.

Just be present and TRY will put you ahead of 90%.
 

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Well, I know some that come to mind:

Iron John (already mentioned)
Rational Male (fatherhood edition)
Ryan Holiday 365 Days on fatherhood

there are a few on biblical masculinity

Art of Manliness has some good articles on fatherhood/marriage
 

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Just remember your own childhood time and growing up. It will be clear what to do.

You asking for a good book that is targeted for the RP man on how to raise his kids the right way. I have never seen such a book, would be a great topic for someone to create one. Lots of good books for the kids and teens, but for the Dad from a solid how it works. none.. maybe the bible old testament.

For the most part such a man must go against the current.

Just be present and TRY will put you ahead of 90%.
Last weekend im coaching my sons 3rd and 4th grade soccer team got 10 goaled for the second time in three weeks - the kids shook hands and told the winning team to take a shower (honestly I thought rightfully so, I never claimed to not be the bad news bears), but my son ended up with the opposing coach in his face, a woman, irate that he did that, like he was the only one. I stepped in between them told her not to speak to my son like that and put her in her place. Put my arm around my son and walk away. Her husband, coach 2, comes running out and basically doubled down on what his wife did. I also tell him to keep his mouth shut and not speak that way to my son. Proceed to walk away.

I call the league. You know how these things are. Guy goes, bc it’s his long time buddy, that he heard I was the aggressor. So I Tell them calmly but clearly that I stand behind what I did, that I put her in her place, it totally inappropriate to speak to a player the way she did. Should be coach to coach. Stop running the score up. What our kids did was wrong. But tell the other coaches, it will be business as usual and professional moving ahead but they are not to say another word to my son. Guy called the other coaches, relayed that, and then took the extra step and sent an email with bullet points of everything I told him to the entire league.

yesterday I spoke to my team, and their parents, about the updates and the important of having fun, playing with class and not to say anything but good game moving ahead. What it would look like if we heard it again.

who do you think I learned that from, a book? I did exactly what my coach did growing up, because I still talk to him and I called him , who is basically my second father
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Literature on the subject is unnecessary. A ready supply of extension cords, a powerful arm, and a dearth of humanity is all you'll require, for the task at hand
 

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My dad taught me a lot about fighting. He would get drunk, talk sh1t to the neighbors or his co workers, and then get his a55 kicked. So I learned to go and train, and more importantly keep my mouth shut so I didn't get into fights.
 

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Haha i appreciate it fellas but not all of us have the blessing to be around strong masculine fathers who are generous with their wisdom. Literature is not the only thing but for some of us, it's something to at least get us thinking on the subject.
 
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