Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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My ex-girlfriend & I split up over a month ago.We were under a lot of stress from other things,& she finished with me because of it. Now everything's fine. The other day,we went out for a drink,& spoke for nearly 4 hours! She said she feels guilty for finishing,doesn't want2get back together,yet does want to spend time with me...and just see where the friendship goes...then she says maybe i can come over and we watch a dvd/have lunch etc on friday..i've said yes. The thing is, I want more from her,& am confused as I dont think she does from me, although she wasnt really clear! What do I do, do I still go,& is it worth me saying/trying anything? I feel like trying to kiss her or something! She says she doesnt want to lead me on!

Am I being taken for a ride, any advice in this situation?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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cruesoepolo said:
My ex-girlfriend & I split up over a month ago.We were under a lot of stress from other things,& she finished with me because of it. Now everything's fine. The other day,we went out for a drink,& spoke for nearly 4 hours! She said she feels guilty for finishing,doesn't want2get back together,yet does want to spend time with me...and just see where the friendship goes...then she says maybe i can come over and we watch a dvd/have lunch etc on friday..i've said yes. The thing is, I want more from her,& am confused as I dont think she does from me, although she wasnt really clear! What do I do, do I still go,& is it worth me saying/trying anything? I feel like trying to kiss her or something! She says she doesnt want to lead me on!

Am I being taken for a ride, any advice in this situation?
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If you want more from her, then by god DEMAND more from her. Don't let her call the shots, which is exactly what you are doing.

You tell her that you want "it all or nothing". You either are going to be together or not together at all. None of this "see how the friendship goes" crap.

Screw that, you're better than that!

Time to man up chief.
 
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If you don't feel as if she wants the same from you as you do from her, or more, then look into other options. The only successful relationships I've been in were the ones in which the woman was more interested in our relationship's wellbeing than I was. Sometimes it's good to let her sweat, and take the heat from off your shoulders. If you're carrying the majority of the stress in the relationship because you're unsure of her feelings, then it's really not worth it.
 
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Your first major mistake is letting this girl pull all the shots and make all the decisions. You should be leading her, not the other way round.

The stress excuse does not count i'm afraid.

Your paying her all this attention whenever she asks for it, and jumping when she wants to see you for a DVD. I'd be making myself less available ( I normally have a busy schedule anyway - dont you? )

My advice - DONT see her this friday, you need to take back control if you want her back. See her on your terms.

Say ' I had forgotten but I had already arranged x with y, but I was looking forward to coming over. I'l give you a bell to meet up when i'm next free'

This will confuse her - keep it short and sweet and dont be funny on the phone, act normal.

Maybe read the bible like someone says, this one is simple. In fact if it was me and she broke up and still wanted to be friends, i'd be calling a break on her and letting her know only when I was ready to see her again...

good luck..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Alright,

**** I have been all over the forum today (nothing like procrastinating on my research methods paper to get the DJ flowing)...

Anyway, first of all due to emotional imbalance you have been put in the LJBF zone of doom... I am guessing you have been demonstrating AFC behaviour, if you want her back you are going to have to break out of the LJBF zone and that will be tough if you are gaming her exclusively.

Thus if you want to get her back go sargeing more often meet more people be more elusive... Because right now this girl is getting more supply of you than she is demanding, and it sounds to me that she might be thinking keeping you as an emotional tampon. So my advice to you is become more distant, become more active, work on your game and go have fun with other girls.

doing this will get her back, weather you take her back after that... well that depends how charitable you feel...

Love

Amethyst
 
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