"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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any advice would be nice

TheCommonreactor

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Yo ppls. Im a junior at my school and ive been head over heals for this girl for about a year and a half now. since shes been in and out of relationships, we have basicly just stayed really close friends, but now im kinda willing to giving being more than friends a shot. she found out i liked her last summer(summer of 2007) and had this whole "do you still like me" convo which was as exiting as it sounds, but now shes been a little more flirty. long story short, she broke up with her boy friend about a month ago and last weekend after a movie we ended up cuddling in bed and almost kissed, but ended up falling asleep anyways. not to bore u with all the details, but she lit candles and put on the beatles before she joined me on her bed, also saying "haha, we look like lovers, bc were in bed with candles and music on" later in the week i over heard her telling some of our friends about that night, turns out shes told more ppl then i did about that night(i only told 1, she told about 10) even after this night, she still isnt giving me many signs that she likes me, maybe she was disapointed i didnt kiss her, idk

well, :whistle: that was longer than expected

if u need anymore details, id be happy to share, but i reall need some feedback on what to do next >.>

thanks
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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FirstInstinct

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Who cares if she didn't show interest after that night. The fact that you got that far should be more than enough to push yourself further. You gonna give up when you got that far?

Just wait a bit, make her want to see you even more and wonder when the next time you two'll be together again. Don't return calls, use push pull for a short time, then go for it again.

And is it just me, or are a lot of threads popping up from people who don't exactly seem to/sound like they have read the DJ bible/any of the material here?
It's like people are just popping in for quick advice on how to get a quick **** and leaving without bothering to actually READ any of the life-changing things that GET you where you want.
 

intrextrovert

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TheCommonreactor said:
after a movie we ended up cuddling in bed and almost kissed, but ended up falling asleep anyways. not to bore u with all the details, but she lit candles and put on the beatles before she joined me on her bed, also saying "haha, we look like lovers, bc were in bed with candles and music on" l
WHAT

go for it
 

TheCommonreactor

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ahh i feel like such an idiot =[ hopefully i havent missed my one chance.

thanks guys, i guess im just shooting for another one of those nights and then actually make my move

any more advice would be welcome tho, so dont stop =P
 

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IF you had did anything that night, it might have either been wrongly taken or blew way out of proportion trust me, things similar to this have happened to me more than once... Of-course not as big of a background story...One time, I f**ked one of my best-friends, biggest mistake I've made!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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