Any advice? Maybe I am just daydreaming....

[AJL]

Hey everybody, I am new here, hopefully I can pick up some stuff and maybe (although unlikely) help out.

What I am about to go into is basically what I want. I don't know if people can help and give advice, or if it will be just a paragraph of pointless raving. Either way, I need to get it out, and hopefully somebody can give me advice.


Now, I am 16 (finished high school a few months ago, but I figured this belongs in the high school forum anyway).

Lately, I have really been thinking. I really want to have a girl in my life. It is like there is a void inside me that needs filling by a special somebody. What may come as a surprise is that unlike most boys my age, I am not really thinking about having sex. Sure it would be cool and all, but its not really want I dream about. I want a girl to really spend time and have fun with. I want somebody to take walks along the beach with, gaze up at the stars with, and to generally be with.

As opposed to a random sex buddy, I want somebody to make happy, and t be made happy by. Essentially, I want somebody to love, and somebody to be loved by.


There are a few girls in particular I can think of that I would like to be in such a situation with, but I don't know how I should go about it. Without going into too much detail in this post, there are plenty of reasons why one the one that I would be most wanting just would not work out. With that being said, I am starting college this year, so surely I will meet new girls.



Does anybody have any ideas or advice as to how I could getting in such a relationship? Is life really like this, or am I just wanting to live a fairytale?


Hopefully somebody can help me somehow,

Thanks

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Trust me. You will end up in love with this girl and when you get dumped you won't know how to attract other women.

Very true .. Ur still young ..u have enough time for LTR (long-term relationship)..

Just go out there and get every girl u can , every single girl .. youll feel better and when it comes to LTR you'll have great experience ..

Im 16 too and i force myself not to fall in love with any girl right now .. And I aint ready to waste best years of my life

Peace

 

[AJL]

Thanks guys.


I appreciate the help, but as I said, I am not so much wanting to bag a heap of girls. I want a proper relationship.

 

[BoredDude]

Thanks guys.


I appreciate the help, but as I said, I am not so much wanting to bag a heap of girls. I want a proper relationship.

Don't listen to these guys, they are young and still learning. Anyways, you want a relationship? Ok then go out and meet girls, find a girl that interests you while you interest her. Finding a girl for a relationship isn't nearly as easy as finding one for a one night stand, so be prepared for frustration when it's been a few months and you still haven't found anybody. Also, don't expect to find true love in your first relationship.

Finding a girl that will be loyal and your type requires you to go to places you feel comfortable, you seem to be a smart guy (graduating high school at 16, unless that's the standard where you're from) so maybe you will want to check out the library? Just go to a place that interests you, and not a club or bar -- these places are usually only good for one nighters.

Good Luck.

 

[SinJester]

Most HS guys want a LTR over a series of one night standards. The DJ bible will still help you.

Finished HS at 16? Wow, where you from?

 

[AJL]

I live in Australia. Everybody (apart from the occasional exception) everybody finishes High school at 16. Maybe we just have different systems and names for schools than in America.


There is one girl which I quite like but she is somewhat younger than me. It is probably just an overall bad idea.

 

[SinJester]

Dude I'm from Australia. This is my last year of High School and I turn 17 in April. I live in SA. What state are you from and how does it work there? :S

Why is the younger girl a bad idea?

 

[AJL]

I am from Tassie. People here finish High school at 16.

And because it's a bad idea because she is younger. I will be going to college and she will be in high school. I dunno if it would be a really great idea.

 

[SinJester]

Ohh ok, Tassie, well always good to see some fellow Aussies here

How much younger than you is she? Its quite normal to date younger girls. In fact girls mostly go for older guys and will rarely date younger guys, especially at our age. I'm surprised you have noticed it before. If it's only a year or 2 it is no big deal and she might be easier than someone your own age.

 

[AJL]

Well to be honest she is 13.

If she was 14 or 15 I would have no qualms at all, but I kind of think that 13/16 (and in a few months 14/17) might be pushing it a bit.



What do you think?

 

[SinJester]

Yeah might be pushing it to be honest. Depends on you completely thought. If you are ok with it it's fine. When do you turn 17? I hooked up with a chick that was 13/14 (not sure, 14 I think, in year 8 while I was in 11 anyway) while I was 15 and I got a bit of crap about it from my friends because she was so hot. I even got a lot of rep for it because she is so hot and popular.

 

[AJL]

It doesn't really worry me and I don't care what my friends think. It's just one of those things which never seem as though they would turn out well.


Perhaps I should just wait to see if I meet anybody nice in college. Still, I do kinda like this girl and I know she likes (or at least liked) me as well last year.

 

[SinJester]

Ok I know you want a LTR, but here's the thing - You need to game one then one girl. "What, but I want a relationship with a single girl!" I hear you say. That may be so but if you game 2 girls you fancy you double your chances that it will work out with one of them. I'm not saying to screw anyone over, no, you just have to make the most of your oppurtunities. If you fall for one girl you can get into trouble because if you act desperate she probably wont want you, and once she doesn't want you it is hard to turn around. By keeping your eyes open you avoid this.

It sounds to me that you know what you want, so I really don't know what advice to give you, or what advice would help. Reading the DJ Bible (more importantly Weapons of Mass Seduction and the Book of Pook) over a period of time is always a good thing.

 

[AJL]

Thanks man. You are probably right.


Maybe I should kind of work towards one girl in particular, but with that being said I could try to meet some other girls too. Keep my options open, but still go for what I want.


Seem like a good idea?

 

[LostAndConfused]

Whats wrong with 14/17 or 13/16 pair? Anything beyond that though is a little bad IMO.

 

[BoredDude]

This thread makes me feel old and I'm only 19. I don't even think I thought about getting with girls at 13.