Any Advice guys !

[Alen-Delon]

okei heres the situation...
i have been seeing this girl for 2 weeks now she indeed seems very interested in me Hb9.... we have been going out to clubs and all kinds of stuff... she even holds my hand when we walk around and stuff.... but theres one problem.... she had this bf for 2 years and they recently broke up like month ago or 2 maybe not really sure anyway.... she said that she dumped him cause he was like a control freak or whatever... and that theyr done deal..... so i am like hey fu*kin awesome..... but two nights ago she calls me to setp a date for next day with me we were suppose to go to Paramounts amusment park for whole day..... so we setup the time where to meet and sh*t ohh and not to forget before she called me a left me message " to call her back preferably before 10:00 p.m same day so we can figru out the details of tommorow: so i call her back before ten we setup time and all.... then my friend calls me and hes like lets go out shoot some pool so i am like okei cool (its all happaning the same night after the call) so we go to this pool hall,,, and what do i see this chick with her X Bf shooting pool so i am kinda shocked right soi go up to her and say hi like i ussualy do didnt loose my cool gave her ****y smile and i know her X by the way so i am like wasupp bla bla... then i continue my way to get the table and sh*t so i get table two tables from them... and i am with two of my homeis shooting pool bullsheting,,, i would glance over to their table just to see how theyr doing, they were acting like frineds no touching huging or whatever... so i am like fu*k this you know... next day i give her call we went to Park her awesome time the same day we went out to club danced our asses off i shoed her blast time she even addmited... Her : ( i have not had this much fun in a while) .... so i take her home gave her a kiss and left...
i am thinking that is she trying to get back with her bf, and using me as a back up if something goes wrong with him...

Should i just Next her .... and move on
that what i am thinking to do...

Any input would be higly apreaciated

 

[diablo]

You're quite right in assuming that you're being used as a backup. To be frank, girls don't date someone for 2 years and then just "call it quits". Their minds don't work that way. She still has feelings for him, regardless of what she says to the contrary, and you need to realize that you're going to be competing in a big way for her. As soon as her ex realizes that there's another guy in the picture - which it sounds like he already has - he's going to redouble his efforts to get her back.

As for nexting her, it all depends on what you're looking for in this. There's a good possibility you'll be able to get her into bed, but if you're looking for a long term relationship, then I'd say move on. If it's just fun you want - keep things up. It sounds like she's having a good time with you, and I've seen nothing in your post that would cause me to believe you should end it just because she still wants her ex back...

To sum up, use her like you would a disposable razor.

 

[SealTeamSix]

No .. you will think of her as your back up. Just do what you do with other ladies .. So .. if your 'back up' goes back to her BF.. no loss .. after all .. she was your back up.. Right?

 

[Alen-Delon]

well see she's good looking sweet charming and down to earth kind girl. and i wouldnt mind dating her tell you the truth... but i mean this situation between her and her x's looks cloudy to me... so i might just get her in the sak and next her... but what i am planing to do right now is not call her untill she calls me, which most likely is going to be tonight and ask me out and when she does i ll say ohhh i dont think i wanna go out tonight... i think i am just gonna sit home and watch movie and drink lil bit.. she likes to drink especialy cognak, thats what i always drink... and even when shes drunk, she can control herself 100%... her emotions and desires...

so i am kind in dillema what to do next!

oh yeah and one more thing... in the first paragraph when i said i saw her with her bf... should i say anything about to her like whassup with that, cause she hasnt said anything .....

THanks !

 

[Alen-Delon]

no one has any advice ?

 

[Don Juanabbe]

I wouldn't bother bringing up the incident when you saw her with her boyfriend, it's pointless. Just take that as a sign you should tread carefully. Shag her if you can, but she is NOT to be taken seriously. Because the minute you do, she'll likely be back with him. Again, tread with caution.

 

[jiro77]

You could try a mild form of ganji games with her.....check out the link.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?threadid=21610&highlight=gangi

 

[Alen-Delon]

okei if anybody is familiar with this ganji game or whatever... and you complettly ignore a girl for a while... then what do you do to get back with her , if she has show much of interest in you..?


Tnx

 

[jiro77]

I'm not saying this is what you should do, but if your thinking "next" this is an option. Read it again if you didn't get it the first time.

"basically, it's simple simon, discontinue all contacts, no emails, no phone calls, no ims, no returned calls, nothing, you discontinue contact buddy. remember this is for ur own benefit although u might feel like **** b/c you are not talking to her. u have to be the don juan here, make her feel like you don't need her, it will appear as if you just decided it wasn't worth it and forgot about her in a mere second. you can add fuel to the fire by making sure friends inform her you are dating or whatever you want. if this girl truly likes you she will break down and make a call to you or email you pleading for you to come back into her life. it is at that point that you have the upper hand, you are in control, you call the shots, you get back into the relationship on your terms." - jocksivs

 

[Alen-Delon]

okei i kinda missed the point there... i think i ll try it cause i got nothing to loose....

Tnx & peace !

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Why bring up her ex? You are not her b/f and you already know what is up!

Forget games, pursue her at your leisure and pace without any emotional attachment and pursue other prey as well.

 

[Alen-Delon]

i think i should ask about it, but be more like casual about it like: hey whats up with you and your x are you guys friends or whatever.... any input!

Peace !!

 

[Alen-Delon]

well i didnt call her yesterday and i wasnt planing on calling her till she called me and she did just few minutes ago... asked me what i was doing tonight i sayed i didnt know yet... that i would give her a call later on tonight to see wassup and maybe we could do something toghether..... what do you guys think i should do next .... 1 call her back and tell her i am bussy, 2 not call her back and see what she does... 3 or make plans for us tonight to do something together?

Tnx

Peace !!

 

[OddTech]

dude, we're not going to hand-hold you through this whole process. You need to start asserting yourself. She's giving you a subtle invitation to hang out. If you are feeling good about yourself, take her offer and go hang out!

Remember what some of the posters said, you could just be a rebound guy. Are you able to handle that? A classical pattern is that a girl will start asking her guy-friends to be her emotional tampon after a break-up. Do you want to accept that role? Keep your head in check and be careful. You can potentially get yourself into a world of hurt.

 

[Alen-Delon]

nobody asked you to hold my hand.... got that... i was asking for advice for fu*kin sakes....
ok well i just wanted to say that i want to thank everybody for their advice...

as for me.... i took her out yesterday... to the movies.... then we came back to my house i invited her for few drinks she didnt refuse.... which she did (refuse) to comin before this night on few occasions..... so we are at my crib drinkin lil bit jagermeister... i also had lil bit of vodka left and few beers... so we started of slow at first... i decided to watch a movie so i put in Old School.... half way of the movie we already drank all of the jager + vodka + and we were sippin on beers.... damn i felt pretty buzzed... then i went out to the balcony to have smoke.... so i am standing out there its beautifule evening very worm but not hot sky is clear... so i am enjoying my ciggarete strain at the sky... suddenly i feel somebody rubbin my back... only person in my Apt was her so i am like did you want to smoke shes like no... so i continue staring at the sky while shes rubbin my back.... only thing that was going though my head was how should i respond to this action... i know its a hint for me too do something... so i finish my cig turn around and give her a kiss on her neck.... she responded very pleasantly by rubbin my back of the head and stuff.... so i knew it was on... i get her back to my place and lift her up in my arms... then i storm into my bedroom i trip on something that was on the floor she comes off flying out of my hands and on to the bed... while i fall on the ground... shes like you ok... i am like better then ever.... so you know what happend next

Happy Ending....

Peace