"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Any advice for relaxing tense back muscles?

Eph

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After a running session last year during PT in my JROTC class, I overworked one of the muscles (lower-left side) in my back. After about 3 months, I finally went in to get it checked out in December. They told me, basically, the muscle was "confused" and tense, and contracted the more I moved in the opposite direction (pulling). Anyway, I was supposed to go through physical therapy for it, but for reasons out of my control, I didn't.

While I was there they told me I should apply heat to it everyday (did a few times, and ultimately stopped), stretch, and massage it with a small ball. I've finally gotten sick of my back healing (not to "perfection"), and then tensing up again any time I fall, or need to work it a bit harder than usual. So, is there any thing else I can do for it? What kind of stretches should I be doing? And how long am I looking at before I can fall without it tensing up and causing me (mild) pain? Obviously, it won't get better over night, but I'd like it to be as close to "perfect" as it can get before my YPFT comes up in early June.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The back muscles tense up as a survival mechanism, because your spinal cord is so important to the body.

To stretch your back, lay down and raise each leg up to your head, and then do both. It looks gay, but it works.

Try to warm up properly before you exercise. Walk a little, then stretch, then jog til you feel warm. Get in the habit of stretching during your down time and also while at home - everywhere, not just your back. Flexibility increases dramatically with regular stretching and that prevents injury.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
To stretch your back, lay down and raise each leg up to your head, and then do both. It looks gay, but it works.
I second this, it does work. I like to do each leg for a 30 second count, 2 or 3 times each.
 
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