so here's my story
in high school i had pretty much no self confidence. i had acne and i wasn't particularly good at anything, why would anyone want to date me?
there were a couple girls whose friends told me that they liked me (sometimes "really liked" me) but i was always sure that i'd f*ck it up somehow and i didnt want that embarrassment. this was even more true when i was pretty good friends with the girl already, i didnt want to mess up the friendship. as a result, i never really had any relationship.
in senior year things started to change; i had been been gaining more confidence and i had gone on a couple dates but it never developed into a real relationship (although, again, i'm pretty sure thats what she wanted).
i discovered this website and it has definitely helped me improve my game, but i think i've become for of a PUA than a DJ. even when i find a girl to dance/hook up with at a party, it never becomes a relationship. is this just the atmosphere of college parties, or am i doing something wrong?
for example, a few weeks ago i was dancing/hooking up Girl1 at a party. i asked her for her number and she told me to just look her up on facebook instead. her friend, Girl2, told me that i seemed nice and gave me Girl1's number. i added her on facebook, but i never called her or anything. she even showed up to a party the next week at my frat house but i didnt spend to much time with her before leaving. i realize i probably should have spent some more time with her but i really had to leave.
now its summer and i'm looking to get some dating experience because, to be honest, i'm still afraid of ****ing up with a girl that i really like. however its probably going to be harder now that i'm in suburban america rather than a college campus. do you have any advice for me?
in high school i had pretty much no self confidence. i had acne and i wasn't particularly good at anything, why would anyone want to date me?
there were a couple girls whose friends told me that they liked me (sometimes "really liked" me) but i was always sure that i'd f*ck it up somehow and i didnt want that embarrassment. this was even more true when i was pretty good friends with the girl already, i didnt want to mess up the friendship. as a result, i never really had any relationship.
in senior year things started to change; i had been been gaining more confidence and i had gone on a couple dates but it never developed into a real relationship (although, again, i'm pretty sure thats what she wanted).
i discovered this website and it has definitely helped me improve my game, but i think i've become for of a PUA than a DJ. even when i find a girl to dance/hook up with at a party, it never becomes a relationship. is this just the atmosphere of college parties, or am i doing something wrong?
for example, a few weeks ago i was dancing/hooking up Girl1 at a party. i asked her for her number and she told me to just look her up on facebook instead. her friend, Girl2, told me that i seemed nice and gave me Girl1's number. i added her on facebook, but i never called her or anything. she even showed up to a party the next week at my frat house but i didnt spend to much time with her before leaving. i realize i probably should have spent some more time with her but i really had to leave.
now its summer and i'm looking to get some dating experience because, to be honest, i'm still afraid of ****ing up with a girl that i really like. however its probably going to be harder now that i'm in suburban america rather than a college campus. do you have any advice for me?
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