Hamurabimbi
Master Don Juan
Women at work have said far worse. I can’t imagine the social stigma a guy would face if he did that."Not joking? So I should go to HR and file a sexual harassment claim?"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.